Contrary to popular belief, getting hit on or appearing approachable to men isn’t a matter of chance. You don't need to do anything outrageous or provocative to get a guy to approach you or start a conversation. Instead, learning how to be more approachable can make a significant difference.
Understanding a guy’s mindset before he approaches a girl can enable you to make any guy want to strike up a conversation with you within minutes. This insight can answer the common question, Why don’t guys hit on me?
Do you ever feel like you could use more attention from the guys around you, especially when you enter a new place or a familiar hangout and spot a cute guy worth meeting? If you often wonder why guys don't hit on you, keep reading.
Here are a few tips to help you stand out and catch a guy's eye, giving you an edge over other girls in the room.
# Look Good!As shallow as it may seem, first impressions matter to guys. When a guy enters a room, it takes him just a few glances to decide if he wants to approach a girl. Dressing well and looking good makes it easier for you to appear approachable.
# Don’t Appear OccupiedAvoid being too engrossed with your phone, a book, or anything else. While you might be trying to keep yourself busy, this can make a guy hesitate to approach you, thinking you’re too preoccupied to be interested in a conversation.
# Don’t Try Too HardWhile looking good is important, looking too good can be intimidating. If you’re a stunner, guys may admire you from afar but feel too intimidated to approach, fearing rejection or humiliation. To catch the eye of a shy but nice guy, be friendly and warm to those around you.
# Don’t Dress Too ProvocativelyDressing too provocatively may attract attention, but it will likely be from guys looking for a quick fling. Instead, aim for a sensual look rather than a blatantly sexual one. You don’t need to flaunt everything to catch a guy’s eye—being interesting and looking pretty will do the trick.
# Make Eye ContactLack of eye contact could be why guys don’t approach you. Glance at him occasionally and make eye contact, but don’t overdo it. Too much eye contact can make you seem too eager.
# The Quick and Slow Look AwayThere are two effective ways to signal your interest:
a. The Slow Glance: Casually look towards him, make eye contact for a few seconds with a small smile, then slowly turn your head away.
b. The Quick Glance: Look at him suddenly when he’s staring at you, catch his eye, and then quickly look away. Smiling to yourself can make you appear even more charming.
# Make It Easy for HimIt’s intimidating for a guy to approach a girl in a large group. If you want to meet guys, try spending time alone or with one friend.
# Hang Out in the Right PlacesChoose places that facilitate casual conversations, such as coffee shops, clubs, or bookstores. These environments offer plenty of opportunities for a guy to start a conversation without attracting too much attention.
# Give Him a Few HintsEven in a group, you can still signal your interest. Make eye contact with him a few times, and when he seems ready, step away for a few minutes. This gives him a chance to approach you.
# SmileAppearing warm and friendly significantly increases your chances of being approached. Being likable at first sight is a huge advantage for any girl wanting to catch a guy’s eye.