Crushing Over Same Guy?? Try These Tips To Deal The Situation

That cutie down the hall is to die for you’ve been crushing on him for weeks now! So you tell your roommate about him, and weirdly enough… she’s not as excited as you’d expect. And then she fesses up: She’s been crushing on him for weeks, too! Um… crap. How do you deal? Never fear we’ll get you through it!. Here are few tips how you can deal with this situation

1. Evaluation

How close are you to your friend? Have you known each other for ages? How much do you value your friendship? These are all questions to seriously think about. Is it really worth losing a friendship over? It can end badly — to the point where you don’t even speak to each other anymore. Think about what’s really worth more here. Are you both mature enough to let one of you have him? If not, let him go. If so, then it’s going to take some serious compromise and maturity from the both of you.

2. Conversation

The worst thing you could possibly do is try to pretend things are normal! Have a serious talk with your friend. When both you and your girlfriend are into the same guy, have a heart-to-heart talk. If the crush on him happens for both of you at the same time, then the best way to handle it is to just be mature about it and talk to your friend about it before it turns into a complete disaster.

3. Let Guy Be Decision Maker

If by the end of your talk you both decide that one of you should be able to have him, agree to let him choose to prevent you two from competing over him. Sometimes it’s nice to relax and let him do the work! At this point, there’s no longer a need to worry about initiating the conversation or asking him to hang out. Whomever he’s interested in, he’ll make that clear. Focus on sealing your friendship! Make sure she feels loved; also, make sure she knows that one boy will not ruin your friendship.

4. Don't be a Emotional Fool

If he chooses her, don’t take it out on her — remember, you both agreed that one of you could have him (and if you both agreed that neither of you could have him, that’s just as well). He made a choice, and that’s fine! It simply means you weren’t right for each other. Remember that there are (literally) millions of guys out there!

5. Friendship Over Love

No matter what happens, your friend should still be your top priority. If from the start you agreed to both drop him, great! If you agreed to let him decide, and he chooses her, awesome don’t let it bother you; be happy for her. If he chooses you, enjoy the new love interest, but remember to keep your friend’s feelings in mind. And if he chooses neither of you, then hey it was probably for the best anyway.