As the saying goes, raising happy, successful, and well-adjusted children takes a village but in many cases, the only person around is a single parent. Most people associate single parenthood with mothers, but there are more than 2.5 million households in the U.S. led by a single father. That’s a nine-fold increase since 1960 when there were fewer than 300,000 nationwide.
Single dads are every bit as capable of raising children as single mothers, but they face a few unique challenges. For example, their social support systems may be weaker and less reliable, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. They also may face a tougher time getting away from work to be there when their kids need them, such as on sick days, field trips, and other days when their presence makes a big difference.
# Find a positive female role model for your children If the mother of your children isn’t in the picture or isn’t an ideal role model, it’s important to find someone that they can look up to, especially if you have a daughter. A female relative or close friend who gets along well with your children can provide a much-needed presence in their lives.
# Listen instead of acting Men have a tendency to want to immediately spring into action when problems arise. But children don’t always open up because they’re looking for solutions. Instead, they often go to their parents for comfort and reassurance. Keep an open mind when your children are upset or angry in many cases, they simply want to share what’s bothering them without judgment.
# Befriend other parents Having a social life can sometimes seem impossible for single parents. But it can be much easier when you can bring your children along for get-togethers and events. Whether you seek them out at your children’s school, at church, or at any other social event, having other parents that you can connect with is a great way to unwind with people in similar stages of their lives especially if their children are the same age as yours.
# Take time for yourself at least once per month Take at least one true mental and physical health day per month to focus on yourself. Getting time away from your obligations can be incredibly difficult as a single dad, but having a day to relax and focus on your hobbies and interests is important, as it allows you to recharge and refocus. Coordinating the logistics of such a day isn’t always easy, but with enough planning, it can be done and both you and your children will be better off for it.
# Avoid the temptation to be overprotective
As a single dad, it’s easy to feel like you’re bearing the weight of the world on your shoulders and much of that weight comes in the form of keeping your kids safe and happy. The thought of anything bad happening to their children is so devastating to many single parents that it causes them to become extremely overprotective for years. It’s important to strike the right balance and allow your children to safely push boundaries while knowing they’re loved and accepted at home no matter what happens.
# Stay healthy
Your kids need you more than anyone else in the world. That’s why it’s vital that you stay healthy and active for as long as possible. Be sure to eat a well-balanced diet and find time to exercise at least 15 to 30 minutes per day to maintain cardiovascular health. When you stay in shape, you’ll be better able to handle the demands of being a single parent, including long work hours and playing with your kids when you get home in the evening.