Every guy dreads hearing two particular words in succession, perhaps more than any other phrase when pursuing a girl: you’ve been friendzoned.
While many guys joke about being in the Friend Zone or act like it could never happen to them, most have experienced it at least once in their lives. In fact, some might be in denial about it right now!
Or maybe they simply missed the signs.
Some girls are straightforward and quickly shut down the idea of a relationship. However, many others are more subtle, trying to be kind and let you down gently.
# You’re so unfunny!Even as friends, most girls will laugh at a guy’s jokes; it’s a normal social interaction. If your crush laughs hysterically at your jokes, don’t immediately assume she likes you back. However, if she rarely or never laughs at your jokes, you might not even be at the friend level—more like acquaintances.
# Asks you about other womenIf your dream girl constantly asks you about other women when you hang out, it could mean two things. She might be trying to see if she fits your dating profile or if you’re available. However, she’s more likely hinting that you should pursue one of these women. Red flag alert: If she encourages you to talk to other women, it’s not a good sign for you!
# Addresses you as a ‘friend’This is one of the clearest signs you’re being friendzoned. You might spend all day together, but if she introduces you as “a good friend” or “bestie” to her parents or friends, you’re likely in the Friend Zone.
# She avoids being seen with you in romantic settingsIf she avoids being seen with you in romantic settings to prevent others from getting the wrong idea, it’s a sign. You might spend a lot of time together during the day, but she’s always busy when you suggest dinner or a movie. This indicates she sees you more as a daytime companion than a romantic interest.
# She talks about her hookupsThe worst part of being friendzoned is hearing about the other men she likes while you’re not one of them. Despite knowing these guys aren’t right for her, she’s drawn to their nice car, ripped body, or gorgeous smile, not you.
# Three’s not a crowdIf she frequently brings a friend along when you invite her somewhere, it’s a sign. Once might be a coincidence, but repeatedly means you’re not in a romantic relationship. It’s her way of saying, “Sorry, I’m not interested,” without saying the words.
# She’s drunk, and still no signs!Even when alone at a bar with a few drinks, if she shows no romantic interest, you’re likely friendzoned. No slip-ups about dating, no inching closer—just nothing. It’s not looking good, man.
# There is no physical contact between the two of youA hug doesn’t count. If the only physical contact is a hug when you see each other, don’t fool yourself into thinking she’s interested. Move on to the next point and get the hint.
# She’s so casualIf she doesn’t make an effort with her appearance when you see her, it’s a sign. If she shows up in sweatpants and a pullover jacket with no makeup or earrings, things aren’t looking promising for you.
# You watch a whole movie!If you watch an entire movie together without any cuddling or inching closer, it screams Friend Zone. Try placing your arm around her or reaching for her hand; if she moves away, you know where you stand.
# Brother from another mother?Being called a “bestie” is bad, but being called “the brother she never had” is worse. No one thinks about dating a family member, so you’re definitely friendzoned.
# Shopping timeIf she regularly asks you to go shopping, it’s a sign. If it’s lingerie shopping, there might be hope. But if it’s shoe or handbag shopping, and you’re carrying her purchases like a puppy dog, things look grim.
# Oh-so-cute nicknamesLetting her call you “Mikeypoo” in public is emasculating. It’s a cruel way to have your heart gently ripped out of your chest.
# She needs your adviceIf she asks for tips on what guys are looking for in a woman, she’s not trying to woo you. She has her eyes on another guy and wants to make him notice her. If you want to believe she’s talking about you, that’s your choice.
# Sharing a bedIf you’ve shared a bed but no physical activity occurred, it’s a sign. If she’s “too tired” or “exhausted” and wants to go straight to bed, try initiating something. But you’ll likely face a direct rejection. Accept that you’ve been friendzoned. If you don’t and still make a move, you might even lose her as a friend.