Eleven o'clock at night rolls around and you’re exhausted. If you fell asleep right now, you could get 7 hours of sleep before rolling out of bed and starting it all over again.
Sex? Ha! I don't think so!
That is the last thing on your mind. You only have sex when you’re really horny or when your husband is pleading so much you don’t want to hear it anymore. You’ve got mouths to feed, a house to keep up with, and a job to go to. There are a lot more important things to focus your energy on than sex.
Because when you are not focusing on improving your sex life, you’re having a more profound effect on your and your children’s lives than you realize.
Here are 3 reasons why parents need to improve their sex life, especially after kids are involved:
# You are setting your children up for having crappy sex lives too. As a coach, I hear all the time that people, especially women, are deeply concerned about screwing up their kids. Whether you come from an abusive background as many of my clients did or your growing up years were "normal", your sex life could probably use a face-lift.
# You’re not helping to conserve the world’s resources. As a society, we’ve been focused on trying to save the planet for a long time. But somehow we continue to get into deeper and deeper trouble no matter how many hours we spend advocating for composting, clean cars and food, and climate change.
# You are being a role model for struggle and pain. As a parent, you are a role model for your children, for your parents, for other parents, for other kids, and for your community. That’s a function of being a parent. The question is, "What kind of role model do you want to be?"
Most people never even consider this question, so congratulate yourself because you are light years above most people just for reading this and thinking about it yourself. When we decided to become parents we put into action a magic chain of events that probably happened well below your level of awareness.