When you first buy a new car, you take very good care of it. You make sure to clean the inside and outside regularly so that it maintains the look and feel it had when you drove it off the lot. After a few months, though, you begin to ease up on your diligent care of your new vehicle. Bottles and cans tend to make their way to the floorboard, dirt and grime tends to settle on the doors and windows; the honeymoon is officially over.
The same can be said for the heat and intimacy within your marriage. When you and your spouse first meet and begin to fall in love, you can’t keep your hands off of each other. You’re crazy about one another and aren’t afraid to show it.
* Get physicalIn some ways, non-sexual touch is more important to your relationship than sexual, passionate touch. Since the majority of your time spent together will be outside your bedroom, it’s imperative that you work in some physical touch within little moments of your day. A little grab in the hallway as you pass each other or a gentle shoulder rub in the kitchen while one of you is cooking can go a long way. Find opportunities outside of the bedroom to give each other a hug or kiss.
* Date your spouseThis bit of advice may seem overused, but it’s super important. Going on dates without the distraction of parenthood or the stresses of work weighing down on you can allow you to reconnect in a way that not many tactics will allow. It will also remind you of a simpler time in life when it was just the two of you. It’s fun to reminisce and re-experience those feelings with a weekly or biweekly date night that you’ve implanted in your schedule.
* Know each other’s love languagesIgnorance is not bliss when it comes to your interactions with your spouse. You need to know how they appreciate the delivery of your love.