Possible Reasons Why Your Husband Behavior Changed Towards You

In the initial phase of marriage, the couple creates beautiful times together. They pamper each other and do every possible thing to make the other happy. But as time flies, differences might arise, and behavior may change, sometimes so drastically that you may wonder if your spouse even loves you.

The situations in life keep changing, as does a husband’s behavior. But it may not necessarily mean your husband hate you. However, if you have this one, lingering thought “my husband hates me,” this MomJunction post will provide you with some clarity. Here, we tell you about some signs that suggest your husband may resent you and what you can do about it.

Hate is a strong, negative word and may not always be apt for describing your husband’s behavior towards you. But if you think that he really resents you, then there might be specific reasons for it. We have listed down a few possible reasons below.

Please understand that these are only possibilities and not necessarily the reasons why your husband’s behavior towards you has changed. The only way to know the reasons your husband resents s you, is to talk to him about it.

* You might have hurt him

Think of the first time you noticed your husband’s behavior changed towards you. Try to recall the incidents from the recent past. Did you do or say something that could’ve hurt or offended your partner? Did you disrespect them or insult them in any way? If you think you may have done something to hurt them, that could be the reason for the sudden change in his behavior. It is best to address it sooner than later.

Another possibility is that you might have kept some secrets from him, and he got to know about them from someone else. It may seem irrelevant to you, but your husband might think it to be big deal.

* You might have betrayed him

When you have been unfaithful to your partner, being sorry about it may not change what has happened. He might have forgiven you, but not forgotten what you did. Whenever he recalls the incident, he might become bitter and show a strong dislike towards being with you.

* He might be cheating on you

He might be having an extra-marital affair and likes to spend time with his new partner. The fact that he is obliged to be with you and not with that person might make him resent you.

* There is conflict in the relationship

Have you and your husband been fighting a lot lately? The fights could be about sex, having babies, finances, work-life balance or anything else – they could create a rift between the two of you. If they have been too frequent, your husband may have developed resentment.

* He doesn’t spend time with you

Your husband might be trying to avoid you. Maybe he likes spending time somewhere else other than at home. Or he may not show any interest when you try to spend some quality time with him. This is an indication that he enjoys his time doing things without you. If your husband doesn’t miss you and enjoy spending time with you, this is a red flag that something is missing in your relationship.

* He doesn’t show affection

Hugging, kissing, holding hands, and other forms of physical intimacy happen naturally between a husband and wife. If your husband is trying to move away from you or not showing any such signs of love or affection, then it could signify that his physical attraction and feelings for you have changed.

* He doesn’t remember important dates

It’s okay to forget birthdays and anniversaries sometimes. But if your husband was someone who always remembered important dates and made all arrangements to pamper you, and now he doesn’t seem to care, it could be bothersome. If you notice this happening in your relationship, it’s time you have a talk.

* He puts no effort in the marriage

You both did everything together and were always on the same page about the relationship. But now, your husband doesn’t seem to pay attention or make any effort to keep the relationship alive. He is mostly distant or avoids doing things with you. These signs might suggest that your husband is not happy being with you.

* He is emotionally abusive or violent

He might be showing signs of anger and disrespect towards you. He could be verbally or emotionally abusive or physically violent. Such behavior in the marriage is unhealthy and may signify that your husband has some issues with you and is not comfortable being with you. You should seek help if your husband is abusive. It could also mean that he is going through a rough patch and needs your support. The constant disagreements are bringing out the worst in him. This is a sign that your relationship is in need of attention.

* He doesn’t respect your relationship

Besides love and trust, mutual respect between the partners is essential in a marriage. If your husband doesn’t seem to be caring about you or if he is too rude to you or criticizes you in front of others, then it could mean your marriage is in trouble.

These signs may signify that your husband resents you. Those are not the only signs so don’t be so sure about it without talking to him. The behavior could also mean that your husband is angry or upset with you, and resolving the issues causing the anger could save the marriage.