10 Silly Ways You are Pushing Her Away

If your girl is acting differently, it could be because you're unintentionally pushing her away, even if you don't realize it, and she might not tell you directly.

Understanding what’s on a woman’s mind can be tricky. Her thoughts can be so elusive and changeable that countless songs and poems have tried to capture their essence. One moment, she’s affectionate and caring, and the next, she’s distant and silent.

By the time dinner ends, she’s playful, and everything she does seems to captivate you. But then, at her doorstep, you’re abruptly brought back to reality as she closes the door without even a goodnight kiss or a word of explanation.

You’re left wondering, was it something you did? Does your breath still smell like garlic? Did you say something wrong? What went wrong this time?

You might find yourself frustrated, trying to pinpoint what you could have said or done to turn her from the sweetest person to someone distant and cold.

To save you the trouble, here's a list of 10 ways you might be unknowingly pushing her away.

# You’re Too Nice

Women appreciate nice guys, but there’s a line between being nice and being too nice. They enjoy being adored, feeling comfortable, and receiving your full attention. It’s great to laugh at their jokes and offer to help out when needed.

However, being overly nice can send the wrong signal. She might think you’re insincere or just being nice because you have ulterior motives—like getting her into bed.

It can also make you come across as desperate. No one wants to date someone who isn’t being their authentic self.

# You Have Low Self-Esteem

Confidence is attractive and draws people to you. When you’re confident, those around you are more likely to feel comfortable in your presence. On the flip side, if you lack confidence, it shows, and people might feel uneasy around you.

No one enjoys being around someone who radiates negativity. In particular, no one wants to spend the night listening to a pity party—not even the person you’re dating.

# You’re Self-Centered

Maybe you don’t have low self-esteem. In fact, you might be so self-absorbed that it feels like you’re on a date with yourself.

If you dominate the conversation by talking endlessly about yourself and your achievements, don’t expect anything romantic after dessert. She’ll likely just let you go home alone.

# You’re Whining About Everything

Nothing kills the mood faster than constant complaining, and that could be you if all you do is whine. Imagine going out and griping about your soup’s consistency.

She might tolerate that. But when you start complaining about the salad being too soggy, she may let that slide too.

However, if you continue to whine about your entrée, dessert, wine, the waiter, and the restaurant, you’ll definitely get on her nerves.

No one wants to hear how the entire world is against you.

# You’re Rude

As the saying goes, “You’re not a nice person if you’re not nice to the waiter.” This means showing courtesy not just to those you’re with, but also to those who are serving you.

If you start mouthing off to the chef about an overcooked steak, just as you did to the valet and the receptionist, you’ll not only embarrass your date but also make her question how you might treat her in the future.

# You Don’t Know How or When to Listen

A successful relationship requires knowing when to talk and when to listen. Women notice how attentive you are, even if they don’t always mention it.

It can be confusing when women don’t say what’s on their minds. But when they do talk, you need to listen—and listen carefully.

Otherwise, they might leave and find someone who will lend them a listening ear.

# You’re a Cheapskate

Today’s women are independent and proud of it.

They work hard for what they have, and while they don’t expect you to be their sugar daddy, they also don’t expect to pay for your dinner.

Women often judge men by their willingness to pay. So, don’t go Dutch when you’re still in the early stages of dating.

Social science and biology suggest that women are drawn to men who can protect and provide for them. So, if you’re stingy with the bill, don’t expect her to be generous with her affection.

# You’re Too Focused on Sex

If you’re treating a girl like a princess just to get her into bed, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Being overly focused on sex in your dating life or relationship signals immaturity. Women will see it as a sign that you’re more interested in getting laid than in them as individuals—and they’re probably right.

# You’re Checking Out Other Women

You might do this out of habit and not even realize it until your date or partner points it out.

However, checking out other women while you’re on a date is a major turn-off and can lead to big arguments.

Staring at other women can damage her self-esteem or provoke her anger. Either way, it’s a big mistake because the last thing she needs is to be with someone who might be unfaithful.

# You’re Talking About Your Exes

Women generally aren’t as competitive as men, so if you think talking about your ex will make her try harder to be the perfect girlfriend, you’re mistaken.

Women don’t want to date someone who’s carrying baggage. And reminiscing loudly about how your ex cooked a great Thanksgiving turkey won’t inspire her to cook an even better one.