9 Major Signs Your Relationship is Moving Too Fast and You Need To Slow Down

There are no set rules for how quickly a relationship should progress. If there were, we’d all have a relationship rulebook to consult whenever we had questions! To determine if your relationship is moving too fast, start by assessing how it feels to you.

Do you feel comfortable, or do you feel like you’ve lost control and are racing down a road, dodging obstacles?

The pace of a relationship depends on various factors, including the couple's age, previous experiences, family background, and outlook on life. It's also possible for one partner to feel the relationship is moving too slowly, while the other feels it's just right.

The best approach to this situation is to go with the flow!

# You don’t really know them that well

Are you putting your partner on a pedestal when you barely know anything about them? This is definitely a sign of moving too fast. It's important to get to know them better before deciding if they deserve such high praise.

# Meeting the parents happens after just a few weeks

Meeting each other’s parents is a significant step, but if it happens only weeks into the relationship, something is certainly amiss. It's time to slow down and take things at a more measured pace.

# You never have time to breathe thanks to calls and messages

Check your text messages, emails, and phone logs for any given day. If the numbers are hitting three digits, your phone provider is chasing you with a hefty bill, and you’ve only just met the person, it’s a clear sign you need to slow things down.

# You don’t have a clue about the smaller details

If you’re considering giving them the world, but you don’t even know which newspaper they read or which toothpaste they use, it’s time to settle into a more relaxed routine and learn a little more about them first.

# You’ve absorbed a huge amount of knowledge about them in a very short time

On the flip side, knowing too much too soon is also a sign of moving too fast. If you’re aware of their bowel movements to the minute and you only just met them last week, you both need to hold back a little.

# It seems like they’re moving in and you haven’t been dating that long

A classic sign of a relationship moving too fast: toothbrushes, razors, soaps, and clothes start making their way into each other’s closets and cabinets. It's time to discuss how quickly things are progressing.

# Friends are being cast aside

If you or your partner are ditching friends at this early stage, it’s not a good sign of a healthy relationship, especially not just weeks or months in.

# It seems to be mainly about sex

Sex should be approached slowly and steadily with a new partner, building trust and loving respect along the way. If you’ve already gone through the Kama Sutra but haven’t even had coffee together, you’re in serious danger of turning your relationship into a friends-with-benefits situation.

# There’s way too much information on social media

If you met on Wednesday and by Friday every social media platform is filled with stories and anecdotes of your romantic antics, it's a sign of moving too fast. Your friends aren’t really cooing at how lovely it all is—they’re wondering why you're sharing so much of your private life with someone you barely know.