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10 Casual Dating Rules You Need To Know
By: Kratika Sat, 12 Mar 2022 3:35:57
Casual dating is great. Casual dating rules make it better. Because sometimes you just don’t want to be in a serious relationship. But you want to spend time with someone and have sex casually. There’s nothing wrong with that.
In recent years, casual dating has become wildly popular. Not everyone is ready for something serious. If you work a lot or focused on school and exams, having a serious relationship isn’t on the top of your mind. So, this is where a casual relationship comes into play.
# Do you want a casual relationship?
Is this something you really want? Or are you just doing this in hopes of the relationship becoming more serious? Aha, see what I did there? This is something you definitely need to think about because you need to walk into the relationship with no expectations.
# Be completely honest with yourself
It’s all about honesty. No one wants to get real with themselves because we all want to do things we shouldn’t do. You don’t want to leave a casual relationship heartbroken. So, be honest with yourself. Are you doing this for the right reasons?
# Be honest with your partner
You can’t casually date if you’re playing games. No one wants to be with someone who does this. Just be honest and straight with your partner. If you’re not honest with them, you can really hurt them.
# Define your boundaries
What are your boundaries or crosses the line for you? Everyone has a line, you just need to know what it takes to cross it. Casual dating can be a lot of fun, but only if you know your boundaries. What are you uncomfortable with doing?
# Make rules together
You are in this relationship together, right? So, it’s only fair if you make the rules together. Of course, you have your defined set of boundaries which is good. You both need to come to the table with your boundaries and talk it out. Then make a set list of rules. For example, sleepovers or no sleepovers?
# Don’t kiss and tell
If you’re sleeping with this person, be respectful and keep it on the down low. You shouldn’t be telling other people about your casual relationship with your partner and vice versa. If it’s nothing serious, then it doesn’t need to be made public.
# No future talks
Do not, under any circumstances talk about the future. Okay, you can talk about something happening three days from now, but other than that, nothing. Don’t mention spending time together in the summer or what you should do for Christmas. I thought this was only casual, remember?
# If you’re getting feelings, leave
It’s normal for people to
develop feelings for each other in casual relationships. We’re only
human. If you’re catching feelings for this person, you need to think
about things. Do you want something serious with them? Regardless, you
should talk to your partner about it and see where they stand. If they
don’t feel the same way though, you need to leave the relationship
# No family or friend introductions
You should not introduce them to any friends or family. Remember you’re not dating them seriously, it’s only casual. The minute you bring your family into the picture, everyone’s expectations change. Your family thinks it’s serious and the other person is getting mixed signals. Not good.
# See other people
This is called casual dating for a reason. It’s not something serious, it’s not something that is supposed to tie you down. If it was, then it would be called a serious relationship. You’re in it for the fun. So, to keep it light, you should still continue to see other people. If you are having sex with other people, make sure they know what’s going on.