10 Major Signs Of Disrespect In A Marriage

No one said marriage was easy. Well, if they did, then they haven’t been married or talked to anyone who was honest about the tribulations of maintaining a “happy marriage.” Although each marriage operates differently, there are some universal signs of disrespect in a marriage that create tiny holes and eventually rip it wide open.

We have all been around that couple who makes you feel uncomfortable. Hostility that can be cut with a knife, you just know things aren’t good at home. But, there are two types of marriage discord situations: the silent type and the outward type.

Sure, talking badly to or about your spouse is one of the signs of disrespect in a marriage. There are many other covert and much more hurtful ones that no one sees but the people who receive it.

# Their friends know more about them than you do

A marriage is supposed to be two best friends. If you find out about major life events, or just day to day things, from someone other than your significant other, then that is a sign they don’t make you a priority.

# They never introduce you to other people they know

What is worse than standing there while your spouse goes on with someone who is clearly a good friend and not only do you not know them, or of them, they don’t even consider you critical enough in their lives to say “Hey, this is my wife/husband ___.”

# They only take care of themselves and couldn’t care less about the household

A partnership is supposed to be just that. If they only care about themselves and what is on their agenda, guess what, they don’t respect what is going on in your life. Either way, that isn’t cool.

# They don’t acknowledge your accomplishments

If you respect someone, then you honor their accomplishments.

Someone who isn’t proud of you or what you have accomplished isn’t respectful of who you are or your life goals. Being respectful means not being jealous and giving someone a “hey good job” no matter what is going on in their life.

# They take every opportunity possible to make you feel less than

When you respect someone, you want to make them feel good about themselves, to build them up. If they take every opportunity to cut you down, point out your insecurities, or just to make you feel bad, that is extremely disrespectful and not something you need.

# They talk about and to you derogatorily

Respecting someone means you boost them up, not tear them down. If they can’t follow the “Thumper rule” of not saying anything if you can’t say something nice, or even worse, can’t say nice things, then that is one of the signs of disrespect in a marriage.

# Nothing is off bounds

If they don’t know when to stop, think laughter should be at your expense, or tell intimate details about what goes on in your lives without any thought to how it affects or hurts you, then they simply don’t respect you.

# They hide things from you

Part of being respectful to your partner is showing trust and being open and honest. If they keep secrets from you, big or small, there is a reason why. They try to maintain control. Controlling someone doesn’t exude respect. If someone can’t be trustworthy, they are extremely disrespectful not just to you but to the commitment you made together.

# They treat you as if you disappeared tomorrow they wouldn’t notice, or better yet, they’d be happy

When you respect someone, you make them feel loved, appreciated, and valued. If someone treats you like the only thing that would change is the laundry piling once you are gone, that doesn’t scream respect. That screams “I take you for granted and would just move along if you moved on.”