10 Modern Texting Factors For The Modern Dater

Nobody expected texting to be such a big deal. It was designed to be a convenient way to communicate with the people in your life, but now it’s turned into a whole subculture.

Because of all the attention it’s gained, people are now studying how texting plays into relationships. Good thing they did, because millions of single and non-single people are asking, “What is up with texting?”

The concept of texting didn’t peak until the early 2000’s. That was when cell phone companies started offering texting with their service plans.

Flash forward to a good decade and a half later, where emojis are now the norm, and calls have become almost obsolete. Now that we’re here in the age of texting, the differences in communication and how they affect us have provided more data than we could ever have dreamed of.

# Married couples text less as their relationship progresses

Don’t freak out. That’s a good thing! It means that they’re communicating more in person than they are through social media and their phones.

# Too much texting can be bad for your relationship

Relax. You can still talk to teach other everyday, but the research says that incessantly texting about things that are of no consequence can take its toll on your relationship. Stick to actual conversations and not silence fillers.

# Men who text more are unhappier in their relationships.

This could be connected to men’s egos, since their primal instincts program them to expect rewards when they provide for their mate. In this case, they provide affection through texting. Not being rewarded with the same amount of attention can, and will, annoy them.

# Women who text more are happier in their relationships

In this regard, it seems that women are fueled by the attention that texting gives them. Whether or not their partner texts as much is of no consequence, unless the frequency is alarming—like when a guy rarely texts.

# Both men and women are happier when their partner sends them texts that show appreciation or compliments

If you’re worried about items 3 and 4, you can rest easy, because those can be remedied with a simple solution: send texts that matter to you and your partner preferably ones that show affection and give compliments.

# Using texting to fix relationship problems is bad for a couple

Many couples reported that they felt less happy when their partners used texting to solve relationship problems. They preferred to discuss things out in the open, yet their partners opted to hide behind their screens.

# Men don’t like being texted while at work

This could be because men consider work one of their highest priorities. When you text about useless things while they’re at work, they see it as a hindrance rather than an act of affection. For women, it might not be as annoying, but the same goes for them when their partners text unnecessarily.

# Using one-word texts like “k,” “fine,” and “good,” without capitalization or punctuation is a turn-off

Isn’t it always? Using this as a passive aggressive way to start a fight is also one of the markers of an unhappy relationship.

# Too much intense and flirty texting can scare away a person

This only counts when you just started dating i.e. after the first date, or before you even see each other in person. Men and women find overly affectionate strangers to be tiresome, annoying, and dare we say creepy.

# Texting during a date is a signal for most people to bolt

It’s rude, impolite, boorish…I could go on and on, but anyone who sees a person texting at the table will be put off by the act.