10 Questions To Help You Know Someone Better

We’ve all been in that situation, where we’re simultaneously obsessed with someone, but also aware at the back of our minds that we really don’t know them at all. That leads to a whole series of questions, such as, “Do we share any interests? Will I actually like them if I get to know them better? Will getting to know them better increase or decrease the chance of the friendship/relationship lasting?”

Although ignorance may be bliss in certain situations, when it comes to getting to spending time with someone and connecting with them on a personal level, you should know what you’re getting into. Revealing questions need to be asked to try and get to know that person better, especially when it comes to dating, and if they don’t meet the criteria, then it’s time to move on to greener pastures.

# What do you like to drink?

From the working class beer, to the red-wine-drinking sophisticate, the champagne hedonist, and the whiskey traditionalist, what someone chooses as their tipple can tell you reams.

# Who would you haunt if you were a ghost?

Not really an opportunity to actually see who they would haunt, but to gauge their character. Answers can be cutesie, imaginative, or even downright vindictive draw your own conclusions.

# What’s your most embarrassing memory?

Again, it’s not the actual answer that is important, but how they approach it. Them saying they don’t have one shows they’re a little too serious. Happily volunteering the information shows they are confident and comfortable with themselves.

# What’s the best birthday present you’ve ever gotten?

This is a good way of working out if you’re dating a philanthropist or a materialist.

# What kind of cuisine do you like?

This can tell you so much. Are they sophisticated and erudite *think French or Vietnamese*, sensual and pleasure-loving *Italian or Thai*, or down-to-earth and straightforward *American or German*?

# Do you like children?

There’s something honest and refreshing about someone who says they love kids, but don’t want any of their own right now. What’s worrisome is the desperation of someone who says they EXIST to have kids, or, at the opposite end of the spectrum, someone who can’t abide the sight of them. Both are big warning signs for someone who is socially maladjusted.

# When was the last time you talked to your parents?

If they can’t even manage to make that basic relationship work, then what chance do you have with them? Of course, an answer of “every day for the last twenty years” contains its own relationship pitfalls.

# What kind of films do you like?

This is definitely a taste question. Do they like the non-cognitive joys of an action movie, a thinker’s thriller, or something that relies upon beautiful photography and direction? The answer to this question is a dead giveaway to the kind of package you’re signing up for.

# Who would you get to play you in a movie of your life?

This is a great way to separate an egotist from a self-hater, or a comedian from an earnest ponderer. This question can tell you so much, as it essentially reveals someone’s self-perception.

# Are you on social media?

Not just a “yes or no” question, but an opportunity to discern to what extent. Are they gregarious or aloof? That’s what this question will immediately inform you of.