10 Signs It Is Time To Breakup And Walk Away For Good

In all relationships, there comes a point when the honeymoon period is replaced by a decidedly less pleasant state of affairs. Arguments spring up more readily, less free time is spent dedicatedly together, and other people suddenly seem a whole lot more attractive than they did when you and your partner were sat snuggled up on the sofa every night.

The big question, though, is whether things have broken down so much that there’s no turning back. We’ve compiled the following list of twenty signs that indicate termination territory, and it shouldn’t just be one of them that gives you the justification to separate, but rather, a combination of them.

# It bites

Constant bickering and arguing is a sign that the relationship is almost certainly breaking down, unless that was part of the relationship at the beginning. Whether or not it is a truly relevant reason to separate depends upon the frequency and vitriol of the arguments. Needless to say, violence during these arguments means you should get out as soon as possible.

# Physical matters

Sex isn’t the be-all and end-all of a relationship, but it is a hugely important part. If sex disappears, then shared levels of intimacy suffer immeasurably, and the bereft partner is unlikely to want to continue. It could be the case that the partner who is refusing the sex has already come to that decision.

# There’s no place like home

Home is an environment that everyone should want to go back to at the end of the day – it is your security and nurtures your strength. However, if the thought fills you with trepidation purely because it means having to deal with your partner, then it is a strong sign that things aren’t as they should be.

# All tied up

When people have been together for a while and are still in love, they develop ties together. House, children, marriage, engagement – whatever. If you’ve managed to go years without any of these, then it could be a sign that things aren’t going to progress any further and that it’s time to look elsewhere.

# Looking to the future

Do your aspirations mismatch? Are one of you upwardly mobile and the other happy to hold down the fort? Definitely another tick in the ‘signs you should break up’ box.

# Different tastes

He likes Bud, she likes Barolo. He likes holidays in AC, she prefers Paris. He’ll go for a slap-stick comedy, where she likes her movies dark and sophisticated. Sometimes, such differences can be quite charming, but eventually they start to grate on your nerves. This is a sign that it’s time to weigh your options.

# Don’t agree to disagree

You don’t argue, but you don’t seem to agree on anything either. Whatever you want to do, whatever you think, whatever plans you have, there’s never any consensus of opinion. These are clear signs that you’re not meant for each other.

# The self identity parade

If you feel that you’ve compromised too much to keep your partner happy and you wake up one day wondering who the hell you are, this could be another sign that things need to come to an end – for your own sanity, if nothing else.

# Family matters

In a relationship where one half wants children but the other doesn’t, this can be a real deal breaker. Sometimes, it’s worth hanging on for a change of heart, but just as often, it’s time to call it a day and move on.

# Let’s be friends

Not getting on with your partner’s friends isn’t unusual, nor is it necessarily a sign that it’s time to split up, but it may indicate differences in attitude that could later lead to separation. Only time will tell.