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10 Signs That Might Have You Asking Is She A Lesbian
By: Kratika Wed, 12 Jan 2022 3:40:40
True story. After my husband passed away, I had a friend who was my rock. If it weren’t for her, I wouldn’t have made it through. I could call her any time, day or night, to pick me up – both literally and figuratively.She had this way of knowing just what to say, how to show me comfort, and how to help me through the darkest times in my life. She was, well, the perfect boyfriend only I didn’t see it.People such as my mother, my husband, and other friends would say to me, “You know Julie, she is hitting on you. She’s in love with you!”
Now, I wouldn’t consider myself completely oblivious. But at certain times, I can look back at things, add them up, and finally see what was, well, right in front of my face.Needless to say, when my husband and I began to get serious, she wasn’t into hearing my “girl talk.” She didn’t care much for my crush, and she literally just stopped talking to me.
I thought that it was my fault. Surely, it was because I had blown her off because I was so blindsided by love. So, I began my apology tour, which fell on deaf ears. She wanted nothing more to do with me period.I later found out that once I had left town, she moved in with another “best friend” ironically one who was married when I was there and didn’t care for my relationship with “Susan.”
I suppose when it comes to determining androgyny from homosexuality, I am a klutz. It seems like everyone around me can spot a lesbian. But me? Not so much. I was her best friend and missed every one of the signs. And I never asked myself the question, “Is she a lesbian?”
# She seems way too into you
You know how it feels when you make friends with someone and you feel like a school girl with a crush – but you are missing the crush part?
You like to laugh together and want to hang out, but if she can’t seem to do anything without you, thinks you are the ‘da bomb, and wants you there for breakfast, lunch, and dinner 24/7, that is too close for comfort. There are friend jitters, and then there are much-too-creepy jitters.
# She makes positive comments about you how you look and it makes you slightly uncomfortable
I remember when I was driving home with my friend and she said, “I think you have the nicest ass in the neighborhood.” That is not generally something a straight woman would say to another woman… why be looking at a female’s ass and admitting it?!
# She makes up ridiculous rendezvous with men, but you haven’t ever met them
Susan always had “Pedro” or some “guy” she met at some random bar, but there wasn’t ever a guy in her life. Like a front, she wanted to pretend she was heterosexual, just in case I didn’t get the message.
Good idea apparently, because I didn’t. If she doesn’t have a guy and you have known her for a while, and all she talks about is casual sex that you know didn’t happen, she is probably a lesbian.
# She grew up in a family where being gay wasn’t acceptable
Susan was the sister to three brothers and Irish Catholic. If you are any of those, you get it.For some people, if they came out of the closet, it would ruin their family, their job, or something else in their vicinity. And if you get the vibe that they like you a little more than they should, they are probably a lesbian.
# She de-friends you quickly
If you start dating someone, and suddenly it was like you never existed, then that’s weird. And it’s not like the case where she got mad that you were the cheerleader who was always dumping her friends for the football player.
You aren’t in high school anymore. If she suddenly has no interest in you because you are dating someone, then you turned her off when you were turning her on.
# She doesn’t want to talk about your guy stuff
If you have been able to talk about everything, but when it comes to guys it is totally off limits, then you are with someone who doesn’t want to hear about you liking someone else. Suspicious? Yes. And that may mean that she likes you as more than a friend.
# She hates every guy that you are attracted to
If she can find something wrong with every guy you bring up, even the good ones, then there is something not right. We all carry baggage with us. But if you notice that she doesn’t seem to have a problem with men in general, but just the men you are in to, then you may want to reconsider what team she bats for.
# She finds any reason to be alone with you
If every time you want to bring someone else to a social outing and she finds a reason that you two should go alone, it may be that she is jealous of your time.
Wanting to be alone with your secret crush is not just something that heterosexual crushes desire. Just because you don’t know why she wants to spend time alone with you, doesn’t mean that she isn’t getting pure desire from this intimate time.
# You feel strange dressing or undressing in front of her
We all have that girl that you didn’t want in the dressing room. It wasn’t exactly that she looked directly at you, there was just something that gave you the creeps about her.
If you think twice before getting naked to change clothes and haven’t ever given it a second thought before, that is your inner voice telling you that something is up.
# She texts you obsessively
Texting can be fun, but if she gets pissed when you aren’t on top of it *especially when she knows you are on a date*, then she is in need of your constant attention.
Girlfriends can be pretty obsessive with other girls without having a crush, but if it is something a little more than that, then you should put the signs together and see what you come up with.