10 Things To Keep In Mind If You Are In Love With Your Best Friend

Friendship is the foundation of any relationship; married couples were once friends with each other, but because of love they decided to tie the knot. The value of friendship is immense and priceless. Love they say has no boundaries and this is why you have started feeling something strange for your best friend. Your best friend forever has suddenly taken over your head, he or she is the only thought that comes to your mind and this feeling or love is nothing casual.

You are starting to love and develop intimate feelings for your best friend and you actually don’t know what to do, if you should confess your love to your BFF and hope your love is reciprocated or if you should shut your mouth and act normal. This post aims to bring to your attention the things you should consider and think about before you start thinking about revealing your love for and how you feel towards your best friend.

# Are you sure you are not just being jealous

When you are very close with a friend, your best friend for that matter, you seem to be over defensive or protective, and this is very common with girls. Girls are so protective of their male best friend and they don’t like anyone messing around with their best friend. They detest any girl that is hurting their best friend and sometimes it may just be an overreaction due to jealousy. For guys, everyone knows a guy can easily get jealous when he sees his best friend with her boyfriend. So you just have to consider that it might not be love but jealousy.

# It might ruin your friendship

Falling in love with your best friend can be a very risky, although potentially the luckiest, business you don’t want to invest in, especially for girls. When girls love a guy, they tend to start expecting more from him, you want him to call you always and check up on you always more than he used to do. This might look weird to your best friend because he doesn’t know you love him yet and he might start giving you some space. And for guys, for the fact that you as a guy find it difficult to hide how your love for a girl, you might end up doing strange things like attempting to kiss your best friend; and she might hate you for it.

# How will parents feel about it?

You might want to think parents shouldn’t have a say in their child’s love life or question who they love, but you might want to consider how they feel seeing their child date you. You were that guy or girl they would divulge some family matters to or think about how they have known you since you were a child and now you want to have a relationship with their child.

# What about his love life

You might say you are ready to risk revealing to him how you feel about him and how you want to come out of the friend zone. But have you actually thought about his personal love life, how much does he love his girlfriend, should he stop loving her and transfer the love to you?

# Can you tolerate her ex boyfriends

You probably know all the guys that have dated her and those crushing on her, but can you deal with it? Can you handle the attention she gives other guys when you are around? And how sure are you that you will be calm knowing all the guys she has slept with.

# Why the sudden desire and love for your best friend

Several things might make you develop a sudden affection and love for your best friend and it might totally cloud your judgment. Is he going through hard times, did the family just suffer a tragedy, or he just won a personal accolade. Seeing your best friend get to limelight can strengthen the bond between you two. It will be better you know if you love him by giving it a month or two just to be sure you really love him and not feeling for him or admiring his talents.

# A lover is different from a friend

You might have fallen in love in all honesty with your best friend, and if you're lucky enough to work it out between you two, you should know that you have lost a friend. Yes, you traded friendship for more love, romantic relationship and that is what you will get, this is because it will be difficult for your best friend to try and be both your best friend and also your lover at the same time.

# Does your best friend feel the same about you

Before you start thinking about telling your best friend how you feel and how you want to come out of the friend zone, you should study your best friend and decipher if your best friend actually feels the same way towards you. If you notice your best friend doesn’t feel the same way with you, you should probably try and forget about your feelings. But if you still want to risk it, just know you might ruin everything.

# Will you lose your best friend for confessing?

Some friendships are not too strong so they are bound to be ruined by the slightest of misunderstanding. If you are confident that your friendship with your best friend will survive even if you open up then you can. A true best friend will understand your situation and if he or she doesn’t feel the same, you might be in luck and the friendship will still exist even though it might be awkward for some time.

# Seek advice from an experienced adult

Sometimes all we need is just a second opinion, a complete unbiased judgment and an opinion from a different perspective. Confide in someone that is experienced and mature enough to answer your questions about relationships; your counselor, parent or a colleague. Anybody that has a friend that is caring, trustworthy and a friend you can lean on when going through tough times is very lucky. Having a good friend is the best thing that can happen to anybody because a good friend is someone that in some certain situations are closer to you than your parents or siblings. You are very comfortable sharing your personal challenges and private life with them and they do the same, so be careful with whatever you do, so you don’t lose them.