10 Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With Anyone

Find yourself falling uncontrollably in love with the wrong person?! Use these 13 ways to avoid falling in love if you surely know it’s wrong for you!

When you start to like someone, you don’t actually fall in love with them instantly.

The feeling you experience is infatuation.

And infatuation, as much as it feels like an inescapable wall that blocks your view from everything else, will eventually fade.

Most of us who have a crush on someone end up falling more in love with each passing day, not because we’re so helplessly drawn towards than person, but because we voluntarily choose to let that person sink their hooks deeper into our heart.

# Distract yourself

Don’t let this person control your mind. As difficult as it may seem to stop thinking of this person, it’s definitely doable. Keep yourself distracted with new activities that need your attention. And each time you feel lonely or idle, think about something else that makes you happy.

# Don’t be a stalker

As satisfying as it feels to stay updated on this person’s private life, avoid opening their facebook page every one hour to see if they’ve been up to something. The more you obsess over this person, the bigger the part they’ll play in your life. Try to limit the number of times you stalk them on social media every day, so that eventually you can start to completely ignore them.

# Don’t be a people pleaser

It’s alright to turn down a request or be rude to this person now and then. If you know this person particularly well and they ask you to spend time together frequently, learn to turn them down once in a while. Remember, you’re trying to heal here, and the more time you spend with them, the bigger and deeper your wound would get.

# Don’t get too friendly

Avoid long conversations with this person. And most importantly, completely avoid late night texts or phone calls where both of you share intimate details of each other’s lives. You have to remember that in this case, you aren’t getting friendlier with this person, you’re falling deeper in love and that’s not good at all.

# The bad side

Every one of us has flaws. And one of the best ways to get over someone you love is by constantly focusing on their bad side and picking their flaws. Each time you meet this guy or girl or when you remember them, remember their bad side or the things they say that hurt you. It’ll work a lot better if you could even make a list of reasons behind why you need to stop loving this person, and look at it now and then.

# Avoid getting physically intimate

You may feel like you’re floating on the clouds each time you cuddle up with them or hold their hands. But the moment you walk away from them, you’d come crashing down to the ground. Even if it feels like a stupid thing to do, avoid cozying up with this person. It will do you no good.

# Focus on someone else

Sometimes, the easiest way to get over someone is by getting under someone else. If you’re having a really hard time distracting yourself from the one you love, try to divert your attention to someone else.

It could be a rebound relationship or a bit of flirty banter for a few days. Sometimes, flirting with someone else is by far, the easiest and the most fun way to stop yourself from falling head over heels in love with a particular person.

# Distance yourself from them

This can be particularly painful, especially if you’re working with them or are forced to interact with them on a daily basis. But as difficult as this may be, try to avoid them or keep your distance from them.

# Ignore or avoid the attention

Even if you’re in a stable relationship with someone, flirty attention from someone you fancy or place in high regard can always make you weak in the knees. So if you’re not ready for anything serious or if you want to avoid falling in love with them, avoid the attention at every instance even if it feels good!

# Realize the difference

There’s a difference between falling in love with someone, and finding someone attractive and interesting. Just because you think a guy or a girl is attractive, fun or really wonderful doesn’t mean you love them.

Perhaps, you’ve just assumed that what you feel is love when it could just be admiration. After all, there is nothing wrong in thinking a particular person is wonderful, and there’s no rule that forces you to fall in love with everyone who seems wonderful. For all you know, the happy feeling you experience when you meet this person could just be admiration for them, and not necessarily love.