10 Ways To Find Love When You Have Been Single For Too Long

It’s not really your fault. You may have got out of a serious relationship and took a while to get over it. Or maybe you’re just someone who’s focused on your career. No matter the reason, you’ve been single for too long and are having issues getting back into the dating scene.

# Work on your confidence

You may not feel that great if you haven’t been out for a while. The unfortunate truth is that many people get their confidence from others. And while that’s not always healthy, it can make things harder for you.

So work on building it up. Hit the gym and start eating better. Think positive thoughts about yourself and aim to have more confidence. Having high self-esteem will only help make getting back out there easier.

# Figure out the type of person you want to date

The type of person you want now might be completely different than who you would’ve gone for before. Make a list of the traits you’d like in a partner and have a good idea of what that would look like.

Obviously, don’t let this list be a deciding factor. It should be used as a tool to help you approach the right people.

# Sign up for online dating

Nowadays, online dating really is the best way to get back out there. And the best part? You don’t actually have to go anywhere. All you really have to do is upload a couple pictures, jot down a paragraph about yourself, and see what’s out there for you.

# Go shopping

It’s time to get a new outfit that makes you feel and look amazing. You’ve been single for a while and that means your “date” outfits are pretty, well… dated.

So hit the mall and find yourself something amazing. Just make sure it’s something that feels great on you. Comfort is far more important than showing up in a skimpy tight dress. When you feel good, you ooze confidence.

# Make an effort

You can’t meet someone else and find love if you don’t at least TRY. Yes, the dating scene can be intimidating but once you’re out there, it’s far less scary. So all you really have to do is make an effort to get to know other people. Don’t shy away or avoid eye contact with those checking you out.

# Go out so you can meet new people

You also want to actually leave the house every now and then. While online dating can be a great start, there’s nothing quite like the initial spark of chemistry when you say hello to someone at the bar.

# Keep an open mind

You never know what someone will be like when you get to know them. Looks can be very deceiving. You want to keep an open mind going into the dating world. If you keep shutting down every single person right away, you’ll never find love.

# Don’t put too much pressure on yourself

It’s not that big of a deal if you don’t find someone right away. If you put too much pressure on yourself, you’ll take the fun out of it. You might not find love right away and that’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with that and thinking so will only make things worse.

# Don’t put too much pressure on someone else

If you expect the world of someone, you’ll always be disappointed. I’m not saying you should keep your standards low by any means but don’t expect so much.

They’re not going to come into your life and be the best thing ever right off the bat. It takes time to get to know someone and grow a bond that develops into love.