11 How To Stop Being The Nice Guy And Get Over The Nice Guy Syndrome

Do nice guys always finish last? Not necessarily. But if youíre too nice, women can walk all over you. Itís time to cure your nice guy syndrome.

Okay, before we go any further, letís make this clear. A nice guy is a great guy, heís the good guy that all girls want to date and fall in love with.

BUT in this context, the nice guy is the kind of guy whoís just extra. Youíll know when you meet this nice guy, heís the guy who isnít just courteous, but the guy whoís goes 10 miles extra to be nice to someone.

The worst part about this kind of nice guy is his eagerness to please, itís so much that you can almost smell it off him. Heís not doing it because heís genuinely nice, heís being nice in the hope that others around him will like him more for it. His neediness and clinginess is so bad, heís almost always a pushover and someone who suffers from implosive anger.

# Know the signs

If you think you may be Mr. Nice Guy, perhaps itís time to look at the signs. Once youíre aware of the signs, then youíll be able to take steps to fight your given stereotype and become a man who lands a second date without any questions being asked.

# Admit youíre Mr. Nice Guy

This will take a shot to your ego, but youíre not getting any dates, so really you have nothing to lose. Itís time to accept the fact that youíre Mr. Nice Guy. Just admit it to yourself.

Once youíre done grieving over your newfound discovery, you can work on combating the title youíve earned. Take a couple days, eat some ice cream, and watch Rocky. Then itís time to get to work.

# What do you do that fits the stereotype?

Thereís probably a couple main actions you do that play a huge role in you not getting women. Maybe youíre too passive aggressive or perhaps you come off too needy. Although this may appear harmless, women donít like it. And if they donít like it, you wonít be getting any girls.

# Youíre predictable

Women are all about patterns. The minute something is out of the regular pattern, we know. Trust me. I can see when a guy isnít interested in me before he tells me. Itís all in his actions. So, it could be that youíre texting her all the time ñ switch up the routine a bit and throw her off track.

# Stop lavishing her with gifts

Yeah, Iím not sure who thought this was a good idea. This one guy I went on a first date with showed up to my door with chocolates, a teddy bear, and flowers. Needless to say, it was a little much. Oh, and did he get a second date? No, he did not. You donít need to buy her gifts ñ you really donít. It comes off as desperate. I know itís sad, but itís the truth.

# Lay off the neediness

Whether you have your own life or not, you need to make it look like you do. No one, whether youíre a man or woman, wants to be around a clinger. Thereís actually nothing worse than having some guy who wonít go away and get the hint.

So, if you want her, youíre going to have to show that you have your own life and that youíll make time for her ñ but sheís not the only thing in your life.

# Say no

This is a huge one. Youíve probably never said no to a girl. In fact, even when you want to say no, they do something cute and you shrug and say, ìokay.î Well, not today. Those days are over. Now, youíre going to say no. Women want a man. Men take charge and say no. You need to have boundaries so that you donít end up being stuck with the nice guy syndrome.

# Stop being available

Youíre able to hang out with her any time of the day, any day of the week. Thatís a problem. Donít you have things to do? People to see? People other than her?

She knows that if she calls you to hang out, youíd bail on all your commitments just to see her. Donít do that. You already made plans, so sheíll have to wait another day.

# Create some challenge

Try not texting her or calling her when she expects it. That way, sheíll notice that the pattern has broken and that something is different. She may become suspicious if thereís another girl, which is great. This will spark her competitive side.

# You can be bad

Maybe you wanna be a bad boy, but youíre nervous to go out of the box. Listen, as long as youíre not hurting anyone, why not be the bad boy? You donít have to punch people in the face when they walk by or egg someoneís house to be a bad boy. The bad boy is an energy from within, so you just need to dig it out.

# Go outside of your comfort zone

Women like men who are adventurous and interested in exploring and trying new things. If youíre used to sitting on your couch and playing video games and youíre not getting a girl, itís time to change up your lifestyle. Go outside of your comfort zone and do things you wouldnít typically do so you can shed you nice guy syndrome.