11 Signs You Are Just A Hookup And Nothing Else

Many relationships nowadays begin in the hookup phase even though that’s kind of the opposite of how it’s supposed to work. You’re supposed to meet someone, go on dates with them, develop feelings, and then hit the sack.

But what I’m finding more recently is that many people meet, skip the whole dating part which I don’t understand, because if you’re a girl, it’s free food and head straight to the bedroom, after only a few drinks at a bar.

This makes it increasingly difficult to tell if the other person really likes you after the first few hookups. You may develop feelings for them, but do they now just see you as a hookup and nothing else? That seems to be the biggest problem in the dating world today.

# You only see them at night

One of the biggest signs that you’re nothing more than their go-to sex buddy is that you only see them at night. Their days are full of everything else but you, and they only make an appearance after dinnertime. If that sounds like your current partner, then chances are you’re just a hookup.

# All your plans are last minute

If they never make plans in advance, and are texting you at 9 PM or later to “watch a movie,” then you’re definitely not their first priority or their first option. This is a tell-tale sign that they’ve placed you in the “just sex” category.

# You never go out

Dates are not a possibility, and the two of you rarely do anything other than hang out in your apartment. If that’s your reality with the person you’re getting naked with on a regular basis, then that’s probably all you are to them. Someone who only wants sex and is already getting it is not going to go out of their way to take you on a nice romantic dinner sorry.

# They never talk about their personal life

If you hardly know anything about them, their childhood, their family, or even what their hobbies are, then that’s a sign they may be trying to distance themselves so you don’t go looking for anything more than a hookup. Which is all that they want.

# You have never had the talk

If you’ve never talked about the extent of your relationship, or what exactly the two of you are, it might be because they’re avoiding the issue. And that’s probably because they don’t want to have to tell you that they’re only in it for the sex.

# They avoid texting/calling until later in the day

When you’re waking up to zero texts or calls from them and you still haven’t gotten a response to your “good morning” until after dinner time, you’ve probably come across someone only interested in a hookup. This way, they don’t have to pretend to be interested in your day and can just skip to the, “long day, can I come over?” text.

# You’ve never been to their place (if they have roommates)

If you know your current friend with benefits has a roommate or two and you’ve never been invited over at all, ever then you might want to take a step back and realize why this might be. Most likely, it’s because they don’t want to introduce you to their friends because they don’t foresee you being around for the long haul.

# They never stay the whole night

No sleepovers! That’s a surefire sign that they just want the sex. By skipping the sleepover, they also skip the bedtime cuddles, pillow talk, and cutesy breakfast in the morning which is all relationship stuff that they don’t want with you.

# No post-sex cuddling ensues

That’s right. If they’re hittin’ it and quittin’ it right away *AKA: running out the door after without so much as a warm embrace for you* then you’re just a hookup and nothing more. This shows that they have very little interest in being close to you…unless they’re going to pound town.

# They won’t add you on social media

This is a huge one. Even a hookup should have you on social media. But if they won’t accept your requests, they don’t want you involved in their personal life at all. This clearly means that they’re not interested in you for anything other than sex.

# If they see you in public, you’re avoided

If you end up running into them while at the mall, or out with some friends, and they’re deliberately pretending they didn’t see you—or even ignoring you calling their name, it’s because they don’t want to be seen with you. This may be because they don’t want people to think you’re together. Because they don’t want to be with you in that way—and want both you and their friends to know it.