11 Smart Ways To Tell Your Crush You Like Them

Telling anyone something personal makes you feel vulnerable. So, learning how to tell your crush you like them without too much fear is a must-have.

Learning how to tell your crush you like them is necessary if you ever want to move from the pining stage to the dating stage, or moving on stage, depending on how it all pans out.

Rejection is an awful feeling, and if you have ever felt it before, you do not want to feel it ever again. Without taking that risk, how will you ever move forward or find out if your crush likes you back?

You won’t. There are a lot of scary things in this world. Snakes, high-calorie foods, your mother’s opinions, but telling your crush you like them is terrifying. I’ll be honest, telling your crush you like them will always include some sort of nerves, but hopefully, with my tips, you can work up the confidence to do it without wanting to barf.

Before getting into the hows and what exactly to say, telling your crush you like them requires a certain mindset. You cannot go into it thinking you’ll be rejected or even fearing rejection. You also cannot expect them to like you back.

Pretty much, you have to go into it with no expectation except sharing how you feel. You can hope for the best outcome, but be prepared for any.

Still struggling? Here is a helpful metaphor. If you go bungee jumping or skydiving, you know the risks. You feel the fear. But before you jump, you block those thoughts. You think about the freedom, the fun, and the adrenaline you get when flying through the air.

Admitting you like someone is the same deal. You have already overthought it, but right now is the moment to clear those analytical thoughts and doubts from your mind and just go into it.

* Be straight forward

Sometimes the best thing to do is just bite the bullet, rip off the Band-Aid, and do it. Sure, it can feel awkward, but once all is said and done you will be so relieved, no matter the outcome.

Next time you see your crush, let them know you have been wanting to tell them something for a while and spit it out.

* Text it

We’re all a bunch of texters now, texting your feelings to your crush is nothing new. If you know you’ll wimp out in person texting is always an option or a backup plan. I wouldn’t just send a random text saying “I have a crush on you,” but next time you are having even the slightest bit of a flirty conversation, let them know.

Just by saying something like you’re making me blush or I always smile when we talk can give them the idea.

* Hint at your feelings

If you are not a super blunt person, you may want to take your time and leave breadcrumbs for your crush to find out how you feel. Give them compliments, let them know you’re single, or bring them their coffee.

By slowly introducing behaviors and conversations that are more romantic than platonic, it will come out naturally.

* Flirt

Sure, sometimes flirting is not enough to get the whole message across, but if they like you back they will be looking for any sign you might be interested.

Touch their arm when you’re talking, make eye contact, use body language, do whatever feels right in the moment.

* Ask them out

Without saying the words, “I like you,” to your crush, letting them know you like them is a lot easier. You can get around that sentence by sharing your interest in another way. Invite them out for drinks at a more romantic restaurant than your normal bar and grill. They should get the hint pretty quickly.

* Make a move

This can be risky, but if you are really all in, actions speak louder than words. Obviously, do not just grab your crush and kiss them. That is weird and creepy.

But, if you are chatting at a party and things feel like they are going their or you gave them a ride home and the vibe is there, give it a go.

* Plan a gesture

This is not my style as I am much more private with my relationships, but if you know your crush is into rom-coms and cute promposal videos, plan something cute.

Maybe don’t do it at work, especially if there are office policies against dating, but leaving rose petals and a note on their car asking them out is more than a lot of people are used to. The flattery and effort gestures like this take can open their eyes to you even if they hadn’t thought about it before.

* Get a pep talk from friends

Boosting your own confidence is not always easy. But, if you let your friends know you are thinking about letting your crush know you like them, they will pep you up and give you the self-esteem you need.

They will remind you how amazing you are no matter the result. They tell you that you deserve to be happy and that taking this risk is a step towards that. Your friends can really help to nudge you in the right direction.

* Do not back out

How many times have you said to yourself, “I’ll do it today,” and then came home without telling your crush you like them? This leads to another night watching The Bachelor with a carton of ice cream.

Set a date for yourself and stick to it. Set an alarm on your phone if you have to or get your most inspirational and supportive friend to remind you to do it.

* Do it privately

Some people may appreciate a public announcement of your feelings. That can be intriguing and romantic to some. But others find it cringy and it can be awkward if the feelings aren’t returned.

Instead of just focusing on your comfort when telling your crush you like them, think about theirs too. Are they private and shy or outspoken and open? Decide what is best for you both. If you are in a group setting, pull them aside to chat.

* Joke about it

If you are super nervous and wondering how to tell your crush you like them, go in with a joke. This way if the outcome is not what you hoped for, you can laugh your way out.

You can say something like I would ask you out if you weren’t a Red Sox fan. If their reaction is pleasant you can say, “but I can overlook it if you’re interested.” And if they don’t seem interested just back out.