12 Things You Ought To Know About A ADD Partner

Attention Deficit Disorder *ADD* can affect the way a person lives, loves, and interacts with other people on a daily basis. While dating a person with ADD can be an adventure of ups and downs, this can be a good thing: you’ll never grow bored.

The person you are dating wants to be respected and understood for who they are. Not every day with a partner who has ADD will feel like a walk in the park, since people with the disorder are often overwhelmed by an active mind and become anxious in social situations. While sometimes it can seem like you are walking on thin ice, other times you will realize that your ADD partner is wonderfully passionate and loving.

# Their mind is always on the go

Your ADD partner will likely have an incredibly active mind that doesn’t ever seem to stop working. It isn’t unusual for them to be thinking about a million different things, all within just a few minutes.

# They won’t always finish what they start

People with ADD are known to begin a task, then start moving to the next before completing the first one. Usually, this is when the task is something they don’t find stimulating or exciting enough to keep their focus.

# Sometimes they can be too focused

In contrast to the last point, sometimes when people with ADD are deep into a project they enjoy, they won’t be able to stop until they are done. This could mean staying up all night to complete what they started, even if you want them to come to bed.

# They have difficulty focusing when they are upset

It’s important to remember that your ADD partner will have a hard time focusing on any task when they are upset. They simply can’t stay focused when their emotions are fighting for their attention. This can seem maddening, but they need time to process and work through their feelings, before anything else can keep their attention. Time and space are both necessities.

# They are prone to anxiety

It can be extremely overwhelming for people with ADD to think about so many things in one day, without getting exhausted. Being in a loud and crowded room can be a sensory overload for them, and even hearing bad news can feel like the world is ending. They often need time to be alone, without outside stimulation.

# Listening can be a challenge

People with ADD are not known to be the best listeners, but it really isn’t their fault; they want to hear what you have to say, but after a few minutes, they can begin to zone out or become distracted by something else in the room. It’s best to be patient and understanding.

# They have fluctuating emotions

People with ADD can’t always regulate their emotions, and can literally go through a full range of feelings, from angry to sad to happy, all within a few minutes. If just thinking about the possibility of such a whirlwind seems confusing to you, imagine how your partner feels.

# They might speak impulsively

Sometimes these people speak before they think. They practically have no filter and say whatever they are thinking, whenever they feel the urge. They might say something hurtful due to their overpowering emotions and will likely regret it afterward. They simply can’t help saying what’s on their mind.

# They have a deeply intuitive mind

Many people with ADD are equipped with strong intuition. They can sense things about people, and sometimes predict the outcome of certain situations before they occur. Their strong intuition can help guide them through life.

# They are abstract thinkers

These people think in a complex and deeply analytical way. They are great at problem solving, because they often see solutions to problems where others don’t.

# They are prone to social anxiety

People with ADD already know that they think and behave differently, so they can sometimes feel insecure in social situations. At times, they might avoid these situations altogether, in order to prevent an awkward situation in which they say the wrong thing or behave inappropriately.

# Patience and stillness are difficult

These people can’t seem to sit still. They like to fidget, and are quick to become impatient with stillness or anything too stagnant. Expecting them to sit patiently through a long movie without getting up periodically is unrealistic.