12 Ways To Find Out If You Are A Social Introvert

What is a social introvert? Sounds like an oxymoron, right? How can you be social, yet an introvert at the same time? It exists. You may even be one!

I would like to say that Iím a fairly social person. In fact, most people, when they meet me would call me an extrovert. Iím pretty loud, I like attention and a good party. But thatís only a small section of my life which may happen once or twice a week.

For the rest of the time, Iím tucked away in my room or walking by myself. When you see me in those moments, youíd probably call me an introvert. But I canít be both, right? We have to be one or the otherÖ at least thatís what all the psychology books tell usóthe outdated ones anyway.

But hereís the thing, human psychology is much more complex than dividing us into two categories: introvert or extrovert. I mean, if it was that simple, then everything would be divided into two options. But the thing is, weíre complex by nature and not all of us fall into one category.

# You like being social

Being a social introvert doesnít mean you canít stand people and would rather spend your weekends in a dark room. Social introverts enjoy being social. They like hanging out with their friends and having a good time. Hence the ìsocialî part of the term.

# You enjoy your alone time

Now, you like being social and seeing your friends, but you also need your own time away from them. This doesnít mean you dislike them, but you just need time to recharge your batteries and be in your own thoughts.

Thereís no strict time period for this. Some people need days in order to recharge their batteries, others need weeks. Everyone is different.

# You like to know things in advance

This is the introvert side of you coming out. You like to know what youíre getting yourself into. For example, where youíre going, whoís going to be there, if itís a large or small group. That way, you mentally prepare yourself for the event. If you know you have a party to go to on Saturday night, youíll stay home on Friday and have some me time.

# Sometimes you donít want to go out

While extroverts are usually able to constantly go out, regardless of the day, and still have the energy to continue with their week, weíre not like that. Sure, you know that thereís a party happening tonight, but you just want to crack a bottle of wine open and watch your favorite movie instead. Social introverts donít feel the need to be at a social event, they donít feel that theyíre missing anything.

# But you do suffer from FOMO

This is your social side coming out. Sure, you know when you want to stay at home and chill out, but at the same time, you do occasionally suffer from FOMO, fear of missing out. Thatís why when youíre pressured by your friends to go out, you cave. Because deep down, you actually want to see the drama thatís going to unfold tonight.

# You donít do that well in large groups

If anything, your true colors show when youíre in small groups of people that tend to be your close friends. This is when you can truly relax and be the social butterfly that you are.

You can meet new people, thatís not a problem, but youíre somewhat reserved or shy on first introductions. You need a little time to warm up, however, once you do, youíre smooth sailing from there.

# You know your limits

This is the beautiful thing about social introverts. Sorry, I needed to compliment myself and my peoples. We know our limits. Yes, we can party hard on a Friday night, but then weíre perfectly content with staying at home the night after. We know that going out again wonít do much for us and if anything, weíll have a horribly lazy Sunday.

# Big groups arenít for you

Sure, you can go to a large music festival or a giant pool party, but this isnít your place to shine. Now, nothing really happens when you go to these places, if anything, you just become a little quiet and intimidated by all the people. You arenít comfortable because you donít know the people around you.

# Your friends think youíre weird

They canít tell why youíre like this. Some of them may be complete introverts and not see the point of you going out to parties at all.

Your extrovert friends may not understand why you donít want to party hard three nights in a row. Theyíre confused, they donít get you. They think youíre depressed or going through a hard time when at the end of the day, itís just you know yourself.

# Youíre a great observer

At parties, you see every little detail and interaction between people. As much as you love a good time, you really enjoy people watching. This doesnít mean youíre antisocial or that you want to spend time alone. You simply like watching other people interact in a social setting.

# You like meeting new people

You do! Youíre not closed off and uninterested when someone new comes your way. Rather, you may not know how to strike up the right conversation. I mean, small talk pretty much sucks. Isnít there a new way to talk to people without having to doggy paddle through unimportant conversation?

# Youíre drained after social events

After a party or festival, you need rest. You know that after any social event, youíre going to need a couple days to wind down and recover. And when it comes to family festivities, youíll need months. I feel ya.