13 Signs Your Marriage Is Over

You marry a person with the hope of living with them forever. You want your spouse to be your life-long companion, but life does not always go as per our expectations.

All the plans and hopes you had about marriage may simply collapse sometimes. You won’t give it up but try multiple times to save the relationship. What if you are repeatedly failing in your efforts?

No one other than you can say if your marriage is falling apart. However, there are a few tell-tale signs your marriage is over.

* There is loads of negativity

Currently, all your interactions with your spouse are negative, spiteful, and disrespectful; positive interactions barely happen. You are arguing or quarreling all the time.

Built-up resilience will make your marriage a breeding ground for bitterness.

* Infidelity won’t end

Cheating can be forgiven once or twice. But for it to happen, the erring partner should sincerely apologize and vow not to stray out of the marriage again. If the spouse is not remorseful of what they did and continues to cheat, then that tells you something.

* You no longer get physically intimate

We are not talking only about sex. Relationships strengthen with the soft but reassuring touches like holding hands, hugging each other, cuddling and kissing. These touches help us communicate at a deeper emotional level and feel more connected. When it no longer happens, it’s not a good sign.

It’s also a big red flag when one spouse desires sex and the other is rejecting continuously. This can seriously affect the self-esteem of the spouse who is being denied.

* You share nothing anymore

If you are not sharing your feelings, ideas, fears and daily experiences with each other, it means that you don’t find each other worthy of having in your life. Communication is imperative to relieve stress and strengthen the bond with your partner. If one spouse refuses to share their emotions or hear the other’s, it’s a clear sign of a split.

* You don’t have any interest in each other

Not only do you not share anything with your spouse, you also do not care to know what’s happening in their life. This indicates your lack of interest in your partner. The best part about marriage is to have a companion with whom you can talk and listen to. When neither of you makes efforts to know about each other, something is going wrong in your relationship.

* Addictions are ruining your life

Addiction to alcohol or drugs can ruin your marriage. If a person is unwilling to change their ways, it would be very difficult for their partner to survive the uncertainty, insults and in some cases physical violence as it becomes a daily routine.

* Secrets come out

If your spouse declares that they are homosexual or is in love with somebody else, there is nothing you can do about it but to move on. Listen to your heart and do what’s best for you both. If that calls for an end of this marriage, be brave and do it.

* Your spouse’s absence makes you feel better

The thought of not having to be with your spouse gives you peace, relaxation, and relief. If you wonder how good your life would have been without your spouse, then it is a sharp indicator of the beginning of the end of your union.

* Financial dealings go awry between you

Previously, you discussed money and handling it together like everything else in your marriage. But if your spouse has suddenly changed passwords, is withdrawing money without informing you or misappropriating your money, it could reflect their dishonesty towards you and the relationship.

* Overworking and spending more time on screen

This sign is subjective. If your spouse is genuinely burdened with work as their deadline is approaching or their work is usually hectic, then it may not be the sign of a bad marriage. But if the partner is deliberately keeping themselves busy by sitting in front of the computer or extending their work hours in order to avoid you, then you need to discuss why this is happening.

* One partner has already given up

If one of you has already given up on the other, there’s nothing the other can do. If your partner refuses to talk through the problems, get therapy, and walks away or ignores anything you try – it shows that the hope is vanishing in the marriage. Just like it takes two people for a problem between them to exist, it also takes two to fix it.

* Counselling has become ineffective

Your partner and you had attended counselling sessions previously, tried to reconcile and live together, but the relationship has been breaking up too many times to repair. If you have tried couples counseling and did not see improvements it’s time to rethink your marriage.