13 Steps To Help You Overcome Self Doubt

There have been so many times where I thought I wasnít good enough. Actually, that was most of my high school and university experience. You see all these smart, motivated people, and then you think, well, I lost the game. But hereís the thing, we all have moments of self-doubt. Yes, I know, youíre probably thinking, well, Kobe Bryant didnít have any of those moments, but he did. Heís human. What matters is learning how to overcome self-doubt.

So, if youíre going through the whole self-doubt tunnel, know that you can get out of it. Sure, itís not going to be easy, nothing ever is, but if youíre allowing self-doubt to prevent you from getting what you want, well, fix that.

Hop on the train to success not money, so youíll be able to do what you really want. Unchain yourself and get on the road to happiness.

# No more excuses

Yeah, about those excuses, I know, even I have them, but it has to stop. Self-doubt allows us to rationalize to better fit our emotional state.

So, if I have to speak in public, Iím most likely nervous. Now, to help soothe my anxiety, Iíll try to get out of the situation by saying the mic isnít loud enough or Iím too sweaty. When weíre afraid to fail, youíll be surprised at what excuses we can come up with. So, cut them out.

# Stop comparing yourself to anyone else

Comparing yourself to others is possibly the worst thing you could do. Of course, someone is going to always be better looking, more talented, or funnier than youóthatís life. However, that doesnít mean youíre not deserving of trying to get what you want. The only difference between you and them is that theyíre working towards their goals.

# Self-doubt is connected to confidence

Confidence is key. You need to feel good about yourself and ultimately love yourself if you want to overcome self-doubt. If you read this, youíre already one step closer. You realize self-doubt is destroying you. How do you battle hate? You use love.

# Trust your gut

Your initial feeling about something is usually never wrong. If you think you have a great idea, well, you probably have a great idea. Now, there are going to be people along the way that tell you itís shit or that maybe someone else should it. But at the end of the day, you stick to the gut instinct, not all the other voices in your head.

# Look at your circle of five

You need to take a look at the closest five people you surround yourself with. Now, surprisingly, Dr. John Kounios, a professor at Drexel University, states that our neural connections change after a twenty-minute conversation. So, if you surround yourself with negative people, you can only imagine the effect it has on your self-confidence and self-doubt.

# Become aware of yourself

If you want to know how to overcome self-doubt, you need to ask yourself a few questions. Do you really know that you suffer from self-doubt? Are you aware of people you surround yourself with? Are you aware of the negative habits you have? Probably not. So, become aware.

Get to know yourself and your emotions. This is really the only way you see what triggers your self-doubt and how you can avoid those triggers.

# Allow for self-compassion

Practicing self-compassion is essential. What is it? Basically, self-compassion is being kind to oneself. Thatís it. If you want to rid self-doubt from your mind, youíre going to have to be kind to yourself.

There have been multiple studies which prove a high correlation with self-compassion and positive mental health. How can you overcome self-doubt if youíre not mentally healthy?

# Stop asking for otherís opinions

We all search for the opinions of others. Listen, if your company is positive, then itís okay to ask for peopleís opinions. However, at the end of the day, it doesnít really matter what they think, itís about what you think.

So, instead of always rushing to someone for advice, sit with yourself and think things through. Then, once youíve made a decision, you can ask for otherís opinions, if you wish.

# Write your goals down

Writing your goals down is a great way to show yourself where you want to be in life. Whenever youíre feeling moments of self-doubt, look at your goals and see what your dreams and aspirations are. Itíll help you get yourself back on track.

# Keep them to yourself

Donít share your goals with everyone. I know, this is usually the opposite of what people tell you, but keep your goals to yourself. Derek Siver, through his TEDtalk presentations, showed many studies on the effects of sharing your goals with others. What happens? Once you share your goals, you donít do them. We feel that because we talked about them, we did them, which obviously isnít the case.


# Once you make a decision, keep it

Trying to make a decision is when self-doubt comes into play. Youíre not sure if youíre doing the right thing. Listen, once you make a decision, you need to stick to it. Self-doubt creeps in and tries to make you switch your plans, but stay solid on the path you choose. Sure, youíre going to make slight adjustments as you go, but stick to the main plan.

# Have a role model

Having a role model may sound like something you needed when you were twelve, but itís not. Everyone has a role model they look up to, even the most successful people have people that they look up to. Role models usually go through major obstacles throughout their lives, which is a great way to show you they overcame their self-doubt.

# Try!

If thereís one thing you need to do, itís to try. Go and make something happen. If youíre scared of doing something that you want to do, well, let me tell you, itís not going to get easier. So, you need to just go for it.

Yes, thereís a chance you may fail, Iím not going to lie to you about this. But, isnít it better to try and fail than to not try at all? If you try, youíre overcoming self-doubt in the best possible way.