15 Ways To Help You Not Get Attached To Someone

Youíre in a tricky spot. Youíre looking to hookup with someoneówithout worrying about feelings. Fear not, here are 15 ways for how not to catch feelings.

Hooking up with different people is one way to learn more about yourself. Plus, you can experiment with your sexuality. Iím a supporter of soul searching. The thing is, no one tells you that hookups can also cause feelings to emerge, ruining your entire plan of living young, wild, and free. What you have to do is learn how not to catch feelings.

This is why Iím hereósomeone has to let you know! And Iíve had my fair share of hookups. Typically, they all ended up with me liking the person. Of course, they were only hookups, so I ended up momentarily broken hearted.

Iím here to help you avoid that heartbreak at all costs while still having the opportunity to explore your sexuality.

* Be real with yourself

I was trying to play like a tough girl, giving the impression that no one can hurt me, blah blah blah. Iím an emotional person though. I accept that now. Are you an emotional person? Of course, you are. Youíre human, but if youíre someone who catches feelings easily, hookups may not be the best option for you.

* Expect nothing

This is the problem with people who catch feelings. They say they expect nothing, but in reality, they went into the hookup hoping for a wedding ring and a lifelong commitment.

This is the problem. If youíre wondering how not to catch feelings, you should not expect anything, and I mean anything. Itís a hookup, remember? If youíre going into it with expectations, then donít do it.

* Keep seeing other people

Donít get attached to one person. Keep your options open. If not, youíll start to feel settled with the person and that can only lead to disaster. Date other people in the meantime, you donít need to promise commitment. You need to have backups ready and waiting for you.

* Donít start texting each other

Unless itís about sex. If itís about sex, then yes. If itís not about sex, then donít text each other. Thereís no need to have in-depth conversations, youíre not together. Once you start to open up, feelings come into play. Donít be friends on Facebook, donít follow each other on Instagram. Nothing.

* Limit your time together

This isnít your boyfriend or girlfriend, this is just someone you have casual sex with. Refrain from spending all your time with them. Only see them when youíre wanting sex. Itís the best way to keep your feelings at bay. If not, youíll start to feel like itís a relationship.

* Put yourself first

Once you start to put their needs over your needs, they need to go. Casual sex is about your needs being fulfilled, not waiting hand and foot on them. But once you start doing things only to make them happy, well, youíre catching feelings. Youíre not trying to impress them, your goal is to feel satisfied.

* Create boundaries

Sit down with them and tell them what youíre looking for and what the rules are. Yes, you need to establish rules, youíre not special and itís the best way to avoid catching feelings. No sleepovers, multiple partners, no daytime dates, these type of rules. Though they sound like a buzz kill, so is having your heart broken.

* Invest very little into the relationship

You cannot expect anything nor should you go above and beyond for this person. Itís a hookup, so you have no obligation to them. Of course, basic respect is a must, but other than that, you donít need to do favors for them or cancel plans to see them. Live your life and squeeze them into your schedule when you can.

* No gifts. No. No. No. Did I say no? No! No gifts

You arenít dating. This isnít a serious relationship. Gifts mean thereís an emotional connection, and itís crossing the line. Your gift to them is letting them have sex with you. Itís more than enough. If they give you a gift, give it back.

* Always ask yourself one question

Have my feelings changed for them? This is something you should be asking yourself constantly. You need to always check in with yourself and reflect on your feelings. If not, you may be blindly walking into a trap you could have avoided.

* No PDA. Again, youíre not in a relationship with this person

If you want to know how not to catch feelings for someone, completely avoid any kind of public display of affection. No hand holding, no kisses, nothing. If they start touching you in public, this will certainly make you start second-guessing their actions and have you questioning your own feelings. This is where things get messy. Donít touch each other unless itís in the bedroom.

* Donít introduce them to your friends

Yeah, they may get along with the people you hang with, but they donít need to meet your friends. Itís a bad idea. If you have feelings for someone, then you can introduce them to your friends. This is a step that should only be made if you want it to become a serious relationship. And if thatís the case, they wouldnít be someone youíre just hooking up with.

* Make sure you donít already like them

If you have a crush on this person and you want to hook up, expect to catch feelings. This isnít rocket science. You like the person and now youíre going to sleep with them. This, usually, only makes the feelings stronger. Unless the sex isnít good. If you already like them, donít hook up with them.

* Donít talk daily

Thereís no need to talk with them every day. You wonít be seeing them every day. So, only talk to them when you want to arrange to see them. If you start to talk every day, youíll catch feelings quickly. Keep the talking to a minimum.

* End it when you feel the feels

If youíre starting to have feelings for them, you need to cut it. I know it sounds harsh, but itíll save you from heartbreak. Thereís a high chance you will catch feelings, but the important part is to stop hooking up with them when you feel it.