3 Things You Should Know About Emotionally Distant Men

Most women know better than to try to connect with an emotionally unavailable man—but we’re not always good at recognizing them.

If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably wondered, “Why do I do all the work in my relationships?” Maybe you’ve read books on the subject or attended a few seminars to improve your love life.

I see you. I empathize with your struggles and respect the work you’ve put in. Today I’m here to help you change the only thing you can: the way you protect your heart and mind. That means recognizing from the start the men who will hurt you.

# Good men can be emotionally unavailable…

I do not want to demonize emotionally unavailable men. They’re not all jerks and they don’t all hate romance. They could very well just not want a relationship. Being simultaneously single and off the market only means that they’re not looking to fall in love right now—that doesn’t make them bad.

# …which means they can also have positive traits (and you need to ignore them)

They can be charming and sensitive. They can be great communicators, but if they don’t want to be your boyfriend, that’s that. With the emotionally unavailable sort, you need to ignore the positives and see these men for who they are. If they indicate there’s no long-term romantic future, then take that and leave.

# Emotionally unavailable men aren’t the only ones at fault

It’s not hard to spot an emotionally unavailable man. They’re non-committal. They go silent whenever they want. Sure, that behavior is on them, but it’s also your responsibility to read the signs. Furthermore, many men will be honest and explicit about their intentions to date (or not to date) you. They will say that they’re not looking for a relationship. It’s your responsibility to take them at their word. Don’t assume you can change their mind. Respect their choice and move on.