5 Easy Ways To Handle Sex Problems

Both men and women tend to complain about the same things when it comes to sex, particularly when they’re in a long-term relationship. Here are 5 of the most common complaints we hear from couples, along with suggestions to turn a partner’s frown upside down.

* Laziness

If your partner has stopped doing his or her share between the sheets, first try a subtle approach. Gently tell your partner that you’ve noticed he or she doesn’t show the same initiative and ask why. If no explanation is forthcoming (and if you’re certain there are no medical issues), be honest about how his or her lack of enthusiasm in bed is taking the fun out of sex for you, too. If your partner is invested in your relationship, he or she will step up to the passion plate.

* Boredom

To break out of bedroom boredom, experiment with different positions, focus on improving your sexual skills, or surprise your partner by telling him or her an erotic fantasy or dirty dream to kick-start your sexual imaginations. Change the way you behave in bed. If you’re usually quiet, wake up the neighbors. If you’re usually vocal, tone it down. If you’re typically slow and steady, pick up the pace.

* Ignoring the Connection between Emotional and Physical Intimacy

The way a couple treats each other outside of the bedroom has a direct effect on the quality of their love life. Strengthen your relationship by improving communication, prioritizing couple time, making your partner feel appreciated. Do the “little things” that you know will help your partner have a happier day. It’s your best bet for a hotter night.

* Electronic Interlopers

When you reply to a text or update your Facebook status instead of snuggling your sweetheart, you inadvertently send the message that your partner is not as interesting or important as the person on the other end of whatever gadget is in your hand. Make your bedroom a technology-free zone. Charge your cell phone on the kitchen counter and leave your laptop in the living room. Reclaim your bedroom for the two of you.

* A Negative Body Image

Body changes are inevitable in long-term relationships. We get pregnant and give birth. We age. We gain weight and lose our hair. Our fitness levels go up and down. These changes can make couples self-conscious about their bodies, prompting them to cover up more and have sex less. To improve body image, couples should share a healthy lifestyle. As importantly, they should continue to compliment each other’s appearance and desirability. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.