5 Intimacy And Relationship Bases You Should Know About

If you have never had a partner before, then, of course, the “bases” are just a myth that’s been floating around the school. But relationship bases and sexual bases are very much real. We’re not sure why we use baseball metaphors for sex, but we do!

Basically, they’re the levels of sexual intimacy you’ve experienced with your partner. Don’t freak out, it’s not as scary as you think, nor does reaching one of the “bases” make you more or less of a person.

Relationship bases, dating bases, and sexual bases are all the same, because they ultimately focus on just how “deep you’re in” sexually with someone.

So when you’re talking to your partner, it’s a lot easier to describe your level of sexual experience by using bases without going into awkward details.

You should know there is no official definition for what each sexual base represents. But funny enough, people around the world seem to understand what each base represents without any official stamp of approval.

Here’s everything you need to know about relationship and sexual bases and the baseball metaphors for sex.

# First base

Ah yes, this is possibly everyone’s favorite base. It’s harmless, sweet, and full of emotion. First base is kissing *including French kissing*, maybe some fingers through the hair, but nothing really extreme.

Think of first base as what you would do on a first or second date. It’s more like testing the waters with a little fun kissing session.

# Second base

Now, second base is kissing, but it’s a little more intense. There will be some heaving petting above the waist—touching, grabbing, and rubbing breasts, chest, and nipples.

Now, if you need some visual idea of this, think of it when you’re watching a movie on a couch. You start kissing, and it starts getting a little more intense.

More touching, the kissing gets spicier, the breathing gets a tad heavier, and your hands are inside their shirt. That’s second base.

# Third base

Third sexual base is when you and your partner are no longer paying attention to the movie that’s playing on the TV. You guys are completely focused on each other. The petting is heavy and there’s stimulation happening below the waist.

This includes fingering, blowjobs and other oral sex techniques. If you’re fondling and feeling the vagina, penis, testicles, or clitoris, well, you’re now at third base. But remember, there is no penetration occurring at this very moment.

# Fourth base/home run

The big finale. The fourth sexual base is when you’ve gone all the way. You’re now having sexual intercourse. Now, if you were a virgin, this is the moment where you no longer are one.

# Strikeout

Now, we don’t really like this term, but you’ll hear, a strikeout. That is when you’re unsuccessful at engaging in foreplay or sex. It makes it sound like you failed at something, but you know that just because you didn’t have sex or hit any of the bases, you didn’t fail.

It just wasn’t the right moment. Trust us, there will be many times when you could have had sex, but it just didn’t work out.

Sometimes it might be because one of you drank too much or you just didn’t have that connection with someone.