5 Major Reasons Why You Need To Stop Texting First

When you first meet someone, it’s all happiness and smiles, but after the first few weeks or even days of back and forth texting, the risk of ghosting comes into play. If you know when to stop texting first, you can save yourself some heartache and probably get them totally into you again.

It’s something we’re all terrified of in those first few weeks of a crush. It’s almost as if you become hooked on your phone beeping for a surge of adrenaline. We all know how it feels because we’ve all been there, but being ghosted is no fun at all.

The thing is, you need to set your stall out early on and stick to it. If you show your crush that you’re willing to always do the work and let them get away with anything, they’re going to take advantage of that. It’s human nature. However, if you set boundaries from the start and refuse to bend on them, they’re going to see that you’re not someone to be messed around with. Ironically, this can actually make you more attractive to them, because you instantly become a challenge.

# You’ll easily notice if they’re a good one or not

If you stop texting first and they don’t reply, there’s your answer they’re not worth your time. You can also figure out from being a little more fluid with your texting whether or not they’re a good one or someone who’s liable to play ghosting games with you when they become bored.

A healthy line of communication should be a mixture of them texting you first sometimes and you texting them first sometimes – equal! Don’t devalue yourself by constantly chasing after someone who can’t even be bothered to say “good morning” or ask you how you are. [Read: What it means when they never text first but always reply]

# You don’t have to do the hard work all the time

By texting first all the time, you’re doing the hard work. You’re constantly thinking of something to say, always wondering what they’re doing and why they haven’t texted you. It’s exhausting. Crushes and even full-blown relationships should not be this much hard work!

Relax. Stop texting first for a while and see what happens. With a bit of luck, your beau will figure it out and do their fair share of the work.

# You give yourself time to focus on yourself

When you first meet someone, it’s really easy to make your life all about them. You start to obsess about the smallest things, and as a result, you forget your friends, your hobbies, and the things you used to enjoy.

It’s a massive pitfall, and one you need to avoid at all costs. By constantly checking your phone and always being the one to text first, you’re putting one foot on that slippery slope. Relax and see what happens. In the meantime, focus back on yourself and enjoy your time.

# You learn to enjoy dating rather than becoming stressed

Most people don’t enjoy dating and always find it super-stressful. You ended up constantly checking your phone and thinking of things to text just to make contact. It makes you cringe when you look back because it can make you look desperate. By learning to stop texting first, you actually relax and start to enjoy the first flourishes of love. I’m told that it can be enjoyable if you just lighten up and let it flow naturally.

# They quickly realize they can’t take you for granted

If you’re always happy to do the hard work and text first, they’re not going to try very hard. It’s a natural human response. However, if you make them work a little, i.e. do their share of the texting, then they’re going to quickly see that if they take you for granted, you just don’t text at all either.

It’s a far better picture and one which cultivates respect. That’s a far healthier and happier picture, don’t you agree?