5 Reasons Why Guys Don't Approach You

Have you ever experienced a time when you think you’ve been in the right place at the right time, and saw a great guy, and yet nothing happens between the two of you?

And has this happened more than a few times?You may assume you’re friendly and approachable, but without realizing it yourself, you may be dropping cues that push away any guy who wants to talk to you!

He’s there and you’re there. The smell of something new and exciting is in the air, yet nothing’s happening, and you have no idea why. The sad truth is, you might be sabotaging yourself without knowing it.

Here are the 5 most common mistakes most women make when it comes to making themselves appear approachable.

# You’re always on your phone/tablet/laptop

Few things scream “stay away!” like constantly having your phone in your hands. It doesn’t matter if you are talking, texting or surfing the net, it is as if you’ve hung a big do-not-disturb sign over your forehead. The same goes for your laptop or basically any device that you are completely swallowed up by.

The only somewhat acceptable exception is if you are reading an ebook or an article truly worthy of your undivided attention. Believe it or not, this will show on your face, in your posture and the general impression you make on people, giving you a more thoughtful and intelligent look.

If you are indeed going to read a book, keep in mind that a paperback is by far the better icebreaker. It carries a certain dose of romance and serenity with it that rarely goes unnoticed.

# You don’t make eye contact

You can’t really blame a man for not coming over to talk to you, if you couldn’t be bothered to even look at him now and then. We wouldn’t go as far as to use the “eyes are the window to the soul” cliché, but we will resort to another one – eye contact is how you throw your hat in the ring.

A quick, shy glance or a long, intent look, both combined with a warm smile is how you let a guy know you’re interested.

If you aren’t sure how long you need to keep your gaze locked with that candy of a man, without it becoming creepy or turning into a staring contest, you can use this simple tip – stare long enough to notice the color of his eyes. Then turn away and glance at something else. Slowly. You don’t want to do this with a fast motion as it makes you resemble a scared animal. And you are not. You are a seductive, confident woman who knows how to get what she wants.

# You behave rudely

Rude behavior is a huge turn off for any guy, irrespective of whether he’s just trying to catch your eye, or he’s sitting across the table on a first date. If you’re perceived as rude or annoyingly moody, the chances of a guy approaching you drops down to a zero almost immediately!

So how can you be a nicer person? Well, you know, avoid mistreating the staff wherever it is you are, don’t raise your voice for no reason, and don’t crush that other guy that worked up the courage to come and talk to you. And for crying out loud, stop shooting angry laser beams from your eyes at anything that moves.

Why? Well, it’s quite simple actually – men neither want, nor do they need, to be your target.

# You act like you’re way too good to be there

Speaking of being well out of somebody’s league, you should know there is a very fine line between having a good self-esteem and being an obnoxious narcissist. And while we’re sure you know which side of that line you’re on, it’s quite possible it doesn’t appear the same way from another’s perspective.

That frown and those half muttered words with which you dismiss everything and everyone around you can easily be interpreted as the doings of an uptight egomaniac. In other words, not exactly the type of girl guys would line up for!

We’re not suggesting that you lower your standards and settle for less than you deserve. You could, however, work a bit on your patience, like giving a place five minutes before deciding you’re the best thing in it, or doing people the courtesy of allowing them to say a few words before giving them your you-lowly-scum look that you’ve perfected over the years.

# You are being too easy

There is nothing wrong with going out and looking for a good time. We’ll say it again, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to have fun, just as long as you know the difference between being a cheerful flirt and an easy picking.

We don’t mean to sound like your grandma and give you a lecture on how men won’t respect you when you’re too easy. But the truth is, if you throw yourself at guys all over the place, you’ll only end up looking desperate. And girls who appear desperate and easy don’t get the guy they really want.

The great guys that leave you drooling and biting your lip, they like a conquest. Not necessarily having to fight a dragon for the right to kiss the princess, but at least a little something to tickle their male ego and make them feel like they earned it, and beat the rest of the competition to it.