5 Signs Of How To Know If You Love Someone

Contrary to the movies, and your friends’ stories about their own relationships, sometimes love just… happens. Without ever realizing it. Sure, you find yourself liking someone, thinking they’re attractive, spending time with them, but the love part? That comes later, it grows over time, and often, you wake up one day and realize you fell head over heels for that person. Understanding how to know if you love someone eludes us at times, but there are always ways to see the signs.

It shouldn’t be a surprise, but it is. The media conditions people into thinking fireworks and love should happen right after the first few times of meeting. The best love stories start out as simple attraction. Over time, either that fades, because they aren’t right for you, or it grows into love.

# You do one specific thing to see if they follow or react in some way

This is especially true if you work together or attend the same class.

For instance, if you both went to lunch together one day and things seemed to go really well, maybe you’ll subconsciously ask to take a lunch right in front of them, you know all “laid-back, not caring.” Why? To see if they’ll follow suit and ask to join you again.

# You turn down dates with other people

It’s no secret single people go on many dates. Bad dates, okay dates, good dates, “friend-zoned-for-all-eternity” dates. But when you find that one person, dating other people seems to take the backseat.

You go on a date with someone else and find yourself bored or uncomfortable, and calling it an early night. Or, better yet, you ruin someone’s day when you turn them down, again and again and again. Why? Because you may not be in a relationship with the special person, but your heart’s already taken.

# Having trouble controlling your words–in the beginning

This doesn’t happen to everyone, but it’s a stereotype for a reason. This goes away after a while, and we touch on it more below. Initially, realizing you’re attracted to someone, you’ll be a little… weird.

You may say dirty things by accident. Or you may be very quiet and shy. Others simply stand in stunned, awkward silence, not knowing what to say. Then there’re those who simply don’t know when to stop talking.

# You feel strangely… comfortable

After a while, you find yourself oddly comfortable around this person. You could talk for hours, get to know each other, play games, hang out, etc. And somehow, you’re not awkward anymore, if you ever were.

You simply feel at ease with them. And this is a great sign, by the way. It means you both feel you can be yourself and feel accepted. No pretenses.

# You went from caring to really caring, without realizing it

Remember back when you first met and that special someone told you things about themselves that you thought were decent or funny, even though they may have actually been… anything but qualities?

Well, if you find yourself actually caring about those things now, and they bother you, welcome to being in love. For instance, if they say they’ve slept with over 20 people, and you didn’t think much of it before, you start to question it a little now. And that may be a sign you developed feelings.