5 Signs That Show Its An End To Your Romantic Relationship

Funny as it may sound, sometimes, we are so invested in a relationship that we fail to realize that we need to move on from a relationship until it becomes evident. We tend to linger on despite the various tell-tale signs. Sometimes, we so badly wish for things to work out that we postpone making the move in the hope that this time round things will be different.

It isn’t until we hit a dead end from all directions that we are jolted with reality that it is finally time to let go.

There are some rather evident signs that tell you that it is time to move on from your relationship. Here are 5 signs which apply equally to friendships and romantic relationships:

* When past memories are more charming and engaging than the present

Do you find it difficult to focus on your current conversations? Do you feel the need to tap to your past experiences and memories to feel good about being with the other person? It is probably time to leave the relationship behind. It is important to remember that your relationship is in the now and the things you talk about or do together in the now should be able to invoke happiness. If you feel the need to relate to the happy memories from the past, you are creating your reality rather than truly facing or living it.

* When being in the relationship brings you more pain than joy

Being in a relationship should make your life better and happier. While all relationships start on a high note, if sufficient efforts are not put in from both sides, the magic seems to fizzle out with time. If you find yourself in tear every now and again, if being with the other person is becoming increasingly frustrating and if you feel unhappy more than not, it might be time to move on.

* When the other person expects you to change

If the other person expects you to change, unless it is for your betterment and well-being, it is a sign that you should let go. If it is about losing weight or a bad habit, it can add value to your life and is a factor which helps both of you grow together. However, if it is motivated by superficial reasons, you are better off without the change. The issue here is not the expectation behind such changes. Such expectations are like a bottomless pit, the further down the hole you go, the deeper the home would get.

* When you expect the other person to change

This applies to you almost as much as it applies to the other person, if not more. Staying on in a relationship with the expectation that the other person will change is a wrong reason. It is always black and white, you either accept the person for who he/she really is or you move on. It is even more important to be aware of this sign because even if the other person changes something to fit into your expectations, you will always find something else that you would want to change.

* When you feel the need to continuously justify the other person’s actions to yourself

This is probably something that all of us a guilty of doing, yet, we take too much time to realize. Now read this slowly and carefully… There comes a time in your relationship where even though a certain act or a certain situation for which the other person is responsible causes you discomfort, you try to rationalise it in your head to make yourself feel better.

The nature of this self-explanation can keep on changing since our creative minds are capable of cooking up as many reasons as may be required. However, the longer you continue doing it, your relationships becomes more of something that you have built out of your rationalizations and false assurances rather than the reality.