5 Signs That Show You Have A Selfish Partner

Nobody is perfect and no relationship is. For a marriage to flourish, the man and the woman should ideally walk half way and meet at the center. But in most cases, one partner walks longer than the other, and they don’t mind taking those extra steps.

However, what if your spouse expects you to walk all the way to them, while they do not budge? What if they expect you to carry the relationship load all alone? If you are constantly battling with thoughts like “Why is my partner so selfish and inconsiderate? Why don’t they think of me?” then you might be dealing with a selfish husband/ wife. Your spouse might be laid back and lazy but this alone is not enough to conclude that they are selfish. While such behavior can be pretty annoying, selfishness is a trait that is rooted deep. Here are a few signs of a selfish partner.

* They expect you to clean their mess

After a long day at work, you come to a house which is an absolute mess — the kitchen sink is filled with dishes and the place is unkempt while your partner has been ‘relaxing’ since morning. You are the only functioning adult at home and need to take care of everything.

* They lecture you about your duties

Whenever you tell your spouse about their negligence or lack of contribution to the family, they emotionally blackmail you and make you feel guilty. They find excuses to justify their selfishness. They lecture you about your duties, and how sacrificing they have been.

* All that matters is their comfort

Your spouse is ready to move mountains for themselves and their family, but won’t even lift a needle for you. For example, they drag you to visit their family on every holiday, but they find excuses to meet your sick parents. In a relationship, you might have to do things that are outside your comfort zone, but that should happen from both sides. A selfish husband/ wife simply ignores their spouse’s happiness.

* They always come first

No matter how busy you are or what priorities you have, your spouse thinks that they have to be your first priority. They demand your attention, expect you to treat them like royalty and always follow their orders. For example, both of you are running late to work, but your spouse insists you to drop them at their office and then go to your workplace, which is on the other side of the city.

* Your life is filled with their choices

Right from the day-to-day decisions like what you can buy for your birthday to major ones like which career to choose — all decisions are taken by your spouse. If this is how your life is, then your spouse is running your life. Your spouse has every right to make suggestions, guide you and help you, but a selfish spouse decides things for you in such a way that they are more beneficial to them than to you.