5 Signs That You Have An Abusive Or Not A Happy Family

A dysfunctional family (DF) is one where the normal healthy functioning of the family is impeded through negative behavior such as abuse, apathy, neglect, or lack of emotional support.

In DF, the relationship between the parent and child is tensed and unnatural; parents constantly neglect or abuse the child and the other family members accommodate such behavior. In some cases, children end up with low self-esteem and grow up with the belief that such behavior is normal.There is negativity in dysfunctional families leading to an unpleasant atmosphere. Here are some common characteristics of such families:

* Controlling

One or both the parents dominate and make decisions on behalf of their children even when it is unnecessary. They have an underlying fear of becoming useless to their children. This fear makes them feel abandoned when their children become independent. Children of controlling parents feel resentful, inadequate, and powerless — the feelings that they carry through their adulthood. They might end up being poor at decision-making.

* Abuse

Abuse, whether physical or emotional, is an unhealthy trait of a dysfunctional family. It is typically done by the parent on the child or by one spouse on the other. The children become insecure, feel unsafe, and accept violence as part of life.

* Violence

When parents resort to physical abuse or violence to have control on the family, the dysfunctionality becomes evident. It has a negative impact on the kids, and they become violent as they grow up. The children may try the same with their siblings and could grow up to become bullies.

* Unpredictability and fear

There is an underlying fear and unpredictability of the circumstances and finances. The children live in constant fear arising from the actions of the family members.

* Poor communication

There is lack of communication and the bare minimum that is there leads to misunderstandings, differences, and mistrust.