5 Signs You Are Ready For A New Relationship

Break-ups can be hard to get through. Nursing your bruised ego as well as shattered self-confidence takes time. And, it always helps when you have people who can be our support and with whom you can share your feelings.

A heartbreak brings with it a lot of grief. Psychology states that there are five stages of processing grief; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Different people turn to different ways to go through the grieving and take different amount of time to do so. Sometimes, the emotional scars may be too deep to heal and might leave you feeling like you can never find love again.

So how do you know that you are ready for a new relationship?

You are able to look at your break-up with a logical perspective

Breakup is generally followed by a very rampant blame game. You either blame the other person for being unreasonable, not understanding, and unaccommodating among other things or you blame yourself for doing something wrong. It takes time to get past it and when you do, you are able to acknowledge the things exactly as they happened with a logical and balanced perspective. Once you are done lamenting over the love lost, you are able to see things with much more clarity. That is one of the signs that you have, finally, moved on!

Your are comfortable as an individual and are not motivated by fear of being alone

Sometimes, a breakup can cause feelings of insecurities and leave room for a lot of self-doubt. It is wise to delve into self-reflection before looking for someone else. When you are absolutely certain about your self-compassion and self-esteem, and you are assured that you are not driven by the fear of never finding love or ending up alone, you can be assured that you are ready for exploring relationship prospects with someone new.

You feel secure and comfortable about your current and past relationships

Several times it happens that the behaviour which leads to a breakup stems from the relationship issues one has faced either in the past relationships or in the relationship which one shares with the family. If you are able to acknowledge your soft spots as well as the differences between your and your partner’s behaviour, you can be sure that you will be ready to tackle a tacky situation if it crops again in you new relationship.

You believe that you can love and care for another person and that you deserve the same

Getting over the self-doubt which results from a breakup takes a lot of resilience and time. Once you start believing and are able to operate with the reaffirmation that you are someone who is capable of loving someone and caring for them deeply, you have reached half-way there! However, if you are also able to undoubtedly resound to yourself that you deserve to be loved and treated well, you can go and seek someone to give all our loving to!

You are clear about the lessons learnt from past relationships

Every relationship situation bring with it a lesson to learn. If you are able to learn from your past relationships you will be able to be in a better position to

a) constantly apply those learnings to figure out what you can do differently in the future
b) be able to be mindful of the red flags
c) have clearer idea of what qualities you want in your partner; and more importantly
d) be absolutely clear about what kind of person you don’t want to be with
When you realize that you are able to chalk out all of the above with clarity, you are ready to move on to a new relationship in your life!