5 Simple Reasons Why Divorce Is Actually A Good Things

While getting married I never thought of ever going off the track. Now, a few years later, I can look back on my relationship at that time in my life with a bit more objectivity and honestly say that my divorce was the best thing to happen to me. It wasn’t either one of us alone that killed our marriage, and there were so many red flags that I just overlooked. Some people make fantastic friends and partners but aren’t meant for the long haul. That’s exactly what my relationship was like.

We were brilliant friends. We travelled together, never really argued a lot, had similar values and drive to grow our wealth and had a great social life. There were a few levels we didn’t connect on and at the time I figured this is just what happens in relationships. After all, we were great friends. Wasn’t that enough?

# Authenticity or nothing

You got married because you believed that you found someone that would love you for who you were; someone that would complement you. When you stay in an unhealthy marriage, you are unhappy. When you are unhappy and you stay put, you begin to develop coping skills and techniques in an effort to maintain a semblance of sanity and calm. Eventually, you are saying and doing things that are completely out of character. In love and marriage, it is authenticity or nothing.

# Prolonged misery

When you are not yourself, you are unhappy and you deserve to be happy. For that matter, we all deserve to be happy. The longer you are in an unhappy marriage, the longer you and your spouse will stay unhappy. What’s more, the unhappiness extends to your family and friends – those people that care for you. There are also repercussions to your health. In other words, the misery is prolonged and extensive.

# Missed opportunities

Prolonged misery eventually turns into assured misery. You undoubtedly will expect misery. An inarguable fact is that when you compare assured misery to potential happiness, potential wins out every time. There are 7,400,000,000 people in this world. There are people out there that can be a partner to you in a happy relationship. And yet, every day that you stay in your unhappy marriage, you are missing opportunities to meet these people and be in a happy relationship!

# Impact on your children

Much has been made about the negative impacts that divorce has on children. For instance, statistics point out that a boys’ chances for being arrested increase significantly when they are raised in a single-parent situation. But while statistics cannot be wholly discounted, they are still statistics. There is no guarantee that your children will become a statistic.

But when you stay in an unhealthy marriage, the strain will be noticed by your children. They willhear the fights. They will struggle to understand the reasons, even if you explain it to them. But more than all of this, they will be confused about what a healthy relationship is and isn’t. This is especially true as they get older and they become more aware of people and emotions.

# Minimal personal growth

Negative experiences in your life can be great learning opportunities. You go through the pain, lick your wounds, and somewhere along the way you think back about what happened and why it happened. This is a part of personal growth. You learn from past mistakes and move forward.