5 Things Couples Can Do To Make A Difference In Their Marriage

Over the years, as the divorce rate has climbed, so too has research in trying to understand what makes a marriage last and what makes some marriages last longer than others. Demonstrating a greater degree of kindness, compassion and understanding in our day to day interactions, and making a genuine attempt to connect positively whenever possible is the key to a long and fulfilling marriage. There are several positive behaviours which you and your spouse can re-inforce in your marriage today which will help you to make a difference in the long run.

# Listen with Attention

When your spouse opens up or initiates a conversation with you, pay attention. Turn towards them and listen to what they are sharing. Respond positively and with interest. It is a way to demonstrate a willingness to understand your spouse and to grow closer to each other.

# Demonstrate Affection

Don’t be afraid to reach out and hold hands, give a hug or demonstrate your affection in other ways. Actions are just as important as words in a marriage, and the power of touch to communicate your feelings should never be underestimated.

# Be Caring

Ask about each other’s day. Be concerned and caring. Try to understand and empathise with your partner through the ups and downs of daily life.

# Show Your Appreciation

When your spouse does something for you, whether it’s something as routine as ironing your shirts or something as special as organizing a special dinner at your favourite restaurant, take the time to tell them that you really appreciate the thoughtfulness and love that motivated their actions.

# Accept Each Other

Don’t view your spouse as a “makeover” project. For better or for worse you fell in love and married each other. This means that somewhere within the differences and similarities that make you a couple, there is a core within your spouse which you inherently love and cherish. Accept that this sometimes comes with other habits which may not be quite as loveable, but which you should accept anyway as together, they make your spouse the person he or she is.