5 Things That Can Happen When You Are Still Friend With Your Ex

Are you still friends with your ex and overthinking whether it’s the right thing to do? We feel ya. As if being in love with an ex wasn’t already tough enough; being friends with them can augment your pain manifold. Whether you both work together or study at the same school, being friends with an ex is awkward and has plenty of complications. If both of you are a part of the same circle of friends, you’d have to pretend to be normal around one another for the sake of others.

When you see them with someone else, you would have to look the other way and pretend to not notice. When you see them looking at you, you would secretly hope they still reciprocate your love.If you can relate to all of these are instances, allow us to list down the 5 things that can happen if you’re friends with an ex you still love:

# You end up becoming the sidekick

What’s worse than being friends with an ex you still love but doesn’t love you back? That you become their sidekick. They parade you around like someone who cannot let go of them even after the relationship has ended. Admit it or not, you boost their ego. They’re in love with the idea of having someone who’s crazy about them at their beck and call.

It fuels their vanity and lowers your self-esteem. There are a few things you should never compromise on in your relationship. Your self-esteem is one of them.Nine out of ten times you will not end up as the hero if you’ve been their sidekick for a while. You will remain on the sidelines until they’ve found someone new.

# You will never move on

Isn’t it common knowledge that a person never forgets something that they keep revisiting? This is also the reason trauma patients are asked to move cities or make significant lifestyle changes. When you remove yourself from a situation, time heals your wounds by allowing you to forget a lot of things from your past.Moving on is imperative to the healing process.

Although this sounds a tad bit cruel, it is important to remove an ex you still love from your life. At the very least, you need to have clear boundaries for being friends with an ex. If you do not, you would be left riddled with complicated emotions and mental exhaustion. It leads us to this question: Can you be real friends with an ex?

# They may label you their “best friend”

Playing mind games with an ex who is still in love with you has to be the cruelest trick out there. Is that what your ex’s behavior toward you amounts to? You could be turning a blind eye to a toxic friendship here. Even if your ex has been a best friend for years, you have to accept the fact that the dynamics are going to change.

# Thoughts of them don’t leave your mind

A breakup calls for you to move on from your ex slowly and put yourself on the path to healing your broken heart. Ask yourself, are you impeding this natural order of things by being friends with an ex you still love? Staying friends with an old love doesn’t allow you to get over them and become accustomed to their absence.

In order to move on completely, you need to stop thinking about them. But here you are constantly trying to solve their problems; you worry if they’re making a mistake and are always checking if they’re okay. If they are on your mind forever, even if not romantically, it isn’t a fair deal to sign up for.If you find yourself getting distracted from your work, other relationships, and most importantly, yourself – it’s time to let go.

# It will kill you when they start dating someone else

Being friends with an ex you still love is hard as it is, but watching them start dating someone else? That pain is unfathomable. The question remains – what are you going to do about it? Sometimes it’s best to let go even if you’re deeply in love. Keeping yourself aloof and detaching yourself emotionally from them can actually help you move on.

On the other hand, being in love with an ex and witnessing them jump with both feet into a new romance is going to wound you emotionally. It will only feed the flames of jealousy and anger. Also, do not forget the elements of awkwardness and humiliation.