5 Tips To Handle Guys Who Ghost You And Come Back

You might be wondering why on earth he ghosted you. After all, it’s his loss given how you’re the ideal girlfriend material!

You’d be surprised to know that when someone ghosts you, it often has nothing to do with you.

Most often, it has more to do with their unresolved issues than anything else.

Maybe he has a fear of commitment or intimacy, so he chose to ghost you instead of risking getting hurt. Maybe he’s scared to date and have his heart broken, so he just want to get into a girl’s pants and tries to use her before she can potentially use him.

# Don’t reply too soon

Ghosters don’t often have the guts to call you, so they either text you or message you on your socials. The general rule of thumb for guys who ghost and come back is to avoid replying instantly. Your heart probably skipped a beat and you’re close to pressing send as soon as he contacted you.

Don’t give him the satisfaction that you were anticipating his message or hoping to hear from him soon.

Instead, take your time in responding to him. If he sends you a text that says “hi” you give him a minimal response back. He has to earn your trust.

# Think about how you feel

Your feelings are the primary factor in dealing with guys who ghost and come back. No matter what angle you choose to look at, being ghosted will always be difficult. He basically had the nerve to disappear without any explanation and pop back up because he was bored. What an asshole move.

If you feel like he doesn’t deserve even a second of your time, then say that. Or just ignore his text back in return. He’ll get the hint.

There’s no reason you should walk on eggshells around him and tell him what he wants to hear. If you do want to give him another chance, remember to use not just your heart, but your head as well!

# Assess if you can trust him

Trust is very hard to earn, especially with guys who ghost and come back. How can you tell he won’t disappear from you again? Whatever his reasons for ghosting you, there’s still a huge possibility he’ll do it again.

You need to think hard about whether you can trust him again, or if you’ll always have that lingering doubt he’ll leave anytime something inconvenient happens.

# Get him to acknowledge his actions

Accountability and acknowledgment are two things guys aren’t exactly good at – they’re stubborn that way. Honestly, you shouldn’t be surprised if they never bring up how or why they ghosted you.

If he fails to acknowledge this, do it for him. Remind him of all the things he did and how you didn’t like it one bit. If he doesn’t acknowledge his behavior or try to convince you of his newfound loyalty, that means he sill doesn’t take you seriously and he will do it again.

# Don’t jump right in

If you decide to get back with him *really take a second thought about this because 9 times out of 10, he’s just using you*, you need to be very careful with how you move forward. Be sure to test the waters first before diving deep.

Take it one step at a time and don’t expect him to be boyfriend material from day 1. Don’t forget – he did ghost you and he can always do it again. While trust is very important, you shouldn’t be too quick to give it away.