5 Tips To Help You Deal With Temper Among Kids

Does your child throw himself to the ground, scream, and kick his feet? You're not alone. All kids throw temper tantrums every once in a while.

While they can be embarrassing and downright frustrating, temper tantrums can be resolved with a little patience and persistence on your part. These discipline strategies can help your child see that no matter what happens to him, throwing a tantrum won't help.

When kids struggle to get a grip on what's going on for them emotionally, they often show their frustration through their behavior. A child who isn't sure how to deal with uncomfortable emotions like anger, sadness, and disappointment, may throw a fit. Screaming and kicking is their way of saying, “Help me, I’m out of control.”

* Don’t Give in to Stop the Temper Tantrum

Make sure temper tantrums aren't effective for your child. If he throws a fit in the store because he wants you to buy him a toy, don’t buy him one. Giving in might make things easier in the short-term because it will make the tantrum stop. In the long run, it will only reinforce to your child that tantrums are a good way to get what he wants.

* Reward Kids for Managing Feelings Appropriately

Provide positive consequences when your child behaves appropriately. Praise him for managing his feelings well and point out good behavior. Say something like, “Johnny you did so well in the store today with listening and following directions!”

Reward your child for behaving well. Offer a sticker if he makes it through the store without crying. If he’s unable to wait until the end of the shopping trip, offer stickers every couple of minutes during the trip if he is behaving. These positive discipline strategies take some more effort upfront but can prevent many behavioral issues.

* Provide Negative Consequence for Tantrums

Temper tantrums need negative consequences so your child will learn not to throw them. Ignoring the behavior can be a great strategy to reduce tantrums. After all, it's not much fun to pitch a fit without an audience.

Look the other way, pretend you don't hear anything, and act as though you aren't bothered by your child's temper tantrum. Although the screaming may get louder at first, your child will eventually learn that throwing a temper tantrum won't get your attention.

* A Word From Verywell

Temper tantrums are common and often a normal part of kids growing up while learning to deal with their emotions. Use some of these techniques to combat the fits and they should become less frequent if you're consistent. The goal is to teach him socially appropriate ways to deal with his big feelings. By teaching him healthier ways to express himself, you're giving him a lesson to use throughout his life.

* Prevention

Although not all temper tantrums can be prevented, a few proactive steps can stop many of them before they start.

Take a look at when your child is most likely to exhibit temper tantrums. Is it when he is hungry or too tired? If so, plan ahead and don’t schedule tasks that will be difficult for your child unless he’s had a nap and a healthy snack.Sometimes tantrums are the result of a child's inappropriate expectations. For example, if your son gets a toy every time he goes to the store with Grandma, he may expect that you’ll buy him a toy as well.