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5 Tips To Help You Move On From Romantic Rejection
By: Pinki Wed, 22 Mar 2023 4:20:49
Romantic rejection is quite common and happens to all of us at some point in our lives. The first step to moving on from romantic rejection is accepting that you have been rejected. Stop thinking that something is wrong with you and that if you fix it, they will accept you. Love doesn’t work that way. Listed below are 5 tips on how to move on and how to respond to romantic rejection.
# Don’t internalize the rejection
One of the best ways of dealing with romantic rejection is by not indulging in the self-hating phase. Many people think that rejecting a relationship is the same as rejecting a person. They fail to comprehend that they have declined your offer for a date/commitment. They haven’t declined you as a person.
When you come to a certain age, you need to accept that you will get into many romantic relationships. Only one (or few, if you’re polyamorous) will survive and the rest will crash and burn.
This includes the dates you got stood up on, rejection after sleeping with someone else, or feeling spurned because you fell for a person who isn’t emotionally available.
# Don’t associate your worth with rejection
When someone downplays your feelings, your mind goes through a lot of self-criticisms. It will make you question your physical appearance, your mannerisms, your behavior, and even your earnings. Some of the things you will think about include:
- “They would have loved me back if I were taller/curvier/just more beautiful.” — Your physical appearance has nothing to do with this rejection. The more you hate your body, the more trapped you will feel in it
- “There is something wrong with me. That’s why I am so unlovable.” — You are loved. If you keep living with this mindset that you are unlovable, you will create more problems for yourself. This self-hatred will ruin your future relationships as well
- “I am not good enough to be loved.” — childhood trauma is one of the reasons that we have so many insecurities inside us. Once we learn how to be more confident, all these insecurities vanish.
# Don’t insult them
This is one of the common ways of dealing with romantic rejection. But is it virtuous? No. The entire concept behind badmouthing an ex is in bad taste. It shows a lot more about you than about the person who dumped you. Insulting them for rejecting you will show your insecurities. Yes, insecure people always criticize and insult other people to make themselves feel better. The person who rejected you owes you nothing. If you can’t be dignified about this rejection, then you will never grow emotionally.
# It will hurt for a while
How to respond to romantic rejection? Know that it will hurt. You poured your heart out to someone. You imagined a life with them. Maybe even wanted to have kids with them. However, your fairy tale came to an abrupt end because they don’t love you back. When that entire vision of your future falls apart, you are bound to get hurt. The breakup healing process is long but it’s not never-ending.
# Practice self-care
Caring for yourself and tending to your needs should become your top priority while dealing with romantic rejection. You need to know how to love yourself if you want to move on. Here are some basic self-care tips you need to follow if you are feeling spurned:
- Stay active. Avoid sitting in the room and binge-watching shows. Go for a walk and spend time with nature
- Are you getting enough sleep or are you sleeping too much? You need at least 6 hours of sleep
- Eat healthy. Nourish your body. Avoid emotional eating and avoid starving yourself
- Get back to your old hobbies. Painting, journaling, collecting stamps, reading, or knitting. Start doing whatever makes you happy
- Try to stay away from social media. The more you look at happy couples posing online, the more you will feel alone.