5 Tips To Keep Spark Intact Alive In Long Term Relationships

There is no denying the fact that every relationship goes through phases where the sex takes a backseat and you focus on building emotional intimacy. But sexual intimacy is important for maintaining a healthy relationship so you need to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship.

We’re giving you 5 tips on how to keep the spark alive in relationships that are losing their charm because of boredom or lack of time.

# Demystify the myth of spontaneity

As much as pop culture reinforces the myth, sex is not going to fall out of the sky when you are cleaning cobwebs from the ceiling or wringing wet clothes before putting them in the dryer. Sex in long term relationships is pre-meditated sex; it takes planning. Don’t expect the magic to just happen, get out there and make it happen.

# Create an erotic space

Creating an erotic space doesn’t only have to mean candles and rose petals on the bed, while that can be helpful, it is also about creating a space where you are a couple.

You need to create a space where you can let go of your responsibilities, like stop being parents to Max, caregiver to your mom or owner of pet Xander for the moment. You need to allow the playfulness of desire to sparkle to keep sex in long-term relationships alive.

# Have date nights (with each other)

Who says dating has to stop when you are married or in a long-term relationship? You won’t know how to get the spark back unless you do the things you used to during your honeymoon phase. Plan a date with each other at least one evening every month.

It can be as simple as going for a long drive or a moonlight walk or eating ice cream from a truck. Get dressed, go outside, do something different from your routine, together. You can also plan double dates with like-minded couples.

# Be open to trying new things

One of the most potent poisons that kills desire in a long term relationship is the lack of novelty. While on one hand, familiarity breeds ease and security, it can also give rise to boredom and monotony and these are the most common relationship problems. Be open to trying new things in your relationship.

One of the biggest advantages of being in a healthy long-term relationship is that you can be completely comfortable with your partner; this is a great foundation to explore your sexuality together. Don’t hesitate to try new things: sex toys, new positions, lingerie, role-play, fetishisms, can all be safely discovered in your erotic space.

# Love and value yourself

One of the secrets to know how to bring back the lost spark in a relationship is to keep the spark alive within you. It is difficult to be sexy when you don’t feel sexy. Eat healthy, take care of your mental, emotional and physical well-being. It is very important to practice self-love.

Find your passion and invest your time in cultivating it. Nothing burdens a relationship like neediness; everyone knows how being clingy ruins relationships. Depending on each other is healthy and normal in a relationship, but when your partner becomes the only source of joy in your life, something is not right. It becomes an unhealthy codependent relationship then.