5 Ways How Not To Online Date From Start

We all need to know how not to online date. Online dating is not as simple as it sounds. There is so much that goes into it. Sometimes it is good and other times it is bad. But, when it is bad, it is really bad.

As someone that uses online dating regularly, I have seen it all. I know what works and what fails miserably. There is a bit of a grey area and of course, everyone’s taste differs, but there are some things that are just a straight up no-no.

Of course, these things also apply with off-line dating, but online dating makes it all so much worse.

# Keep an open mind

I made this mistake myself, so learn from my experience. You do not want to go into online dating thinking in specifics. You cannot have a checklist. You cannot say I will only date this and not that. You cannot say I need this to move forward.

Of course, we all have our dealbreakers and our standards, but most often when we meet someone great, it is far from what we thought. So, try to be as accepting as possible. You never know what might happen.

# Shut down expectations

Thinking every single person on this app is desperate will not do you any good. Thinking you’ll go on one date and see the person of your dreams will also do you no good. Expecting the best or the worst is just an easy way to fail at online dating.

Want to know how not to online date? Stop expecting anything. If you have expectations one way or another, they will not be met.

# Do not have an agenda

I cannot tell you how many guys I have chatted with or even meet through online dating that are doing it all wrong. Some have this agenda to please every girl no matter what. They will say exactly what you want to hear, not caring if it is a lie. And it is obvious. We see past it.

So, be yourself. Do not try to get someone with lies. The same goes for the opposite. There is a surprisingly large amount of guys on dating sites that are just waiting to attack feminists and mansplain life to you. If this is your plan it will fail, quickly.

# Be respectful

Its quite sad that I have to remind anyone of this, but just because online dating is through a screen it does not mean respect goes out the window. If you are hoping to actually get something out of online dating, do not be disrespectful.

Do not mock someone’s values. Do not be rude. Appreciate everyone you speak to whether you like them or not.

# Stop judging

It is hard not to judge when it comes to online dating. We judge others and we judge ourselves. The whole idea of online dating is looks first and everything else later. These sites are literally setting us up to judge others.

And although that is how the game is played, try to maintain your personal preferences without judging. I mean you can be hopeful about someone with tons of travel photos because you also love to travel. You can decline someone that has photos with dogs because you are highly allergic.