Have A Jealous Boyfriend? Try These Tips To Deal With Him

Jealousy is always part of a functioning and mutually romantic emotional relationship.Jealousy in a romantic relationship is one of the things that the relationship needs but in a regulated amount. When shown rightly, it gives both partners in the relationship the assurance that their other partner truly loves them and is not ready to let them go for another. As important as it may feel to keep a relationship functional, it can easily become a real problem when it gets beyond the regulated amounts.

Dealing with an over jealous boyfriend can be a nightmare. Characteristically, an overjealous boyfriend would restrict you from going places without him, spy your phone, restrict how well you dress to avoid attractions to other guys or just doesn't want you to be better in your profession or otherwise than he is. As uncomfortable as it may be for you, in his head, he probably thinks he is doing the best for you. So how do you now deal with this overjealous boyfriend without having to end up in a break-up?

Here are a few tips which can help you:

* Talk about his fears and anxiety

A majority of the time, the most jealous boys are those who think their girlfriend is too influential or consider her to have a very attractive personality. A few other times, his fear may originate from some of their past experiences or some experiences you may have told her about.You should consider establishing a discussion with him and seek to find out what his worries are truly about. And when you have discovered his fears, you should be ready to talk about them and assure him that he is safe with you.

* Tell him how you feel

What if, he doesn't really know that it hurts you? He may just be thinking that you would derive the sense of 'extra-security' from those actions. A man that you would spend the rest of your life with should be approachable by you. In this case, you should be able to tell him how you feel about the action in one of your quiet moments together. Without having to raise a voice, you can tell him how you feel.

* Listen to him

As a way of demonstrating his sovereignty over you and everything you do, he would ask you to stop doing certain things which may include but not limited to going out with friends, using social media, etc. One way to go over this amicably is to listen to him at least for the time being. A day or two after, you can ask him to let you resume what he asked you to stop doing.When you do this, you should realise that he is still not lord over you but that makes him know that you are submissive to him and you are not the flirt he thinks you are.

* Avoid being defensive about your behaviour

A few times, you may be caught in the interrogations with him. "Who was that guy with you the other day?", "where are you coming from?", and many other questions that show how over-jealous he is. As irritating as the questions can be, you should try as much as possible not to be defensive of your actions and behaviours. When you are defensive, it gives him the confirmation that what they are thinking about you is right. It is a good idea to be straightforward and to keep your answers as simple as possible.

* Create boundaries and make him know

This is better done in the early phase of your relationship. You must define your boundaries, what you like and what you do not. If you set your boundaries appropriately, he probably wouldn't have become so over-jealous with time. But now is not too late to establish your boundaries. One way you could do that is by giving a reaction that you are unhappy with their behaviours. If he is understanding enough, he would think about your reaction and plan to make amendments to his approach.