5 Ways To Make Your Man Feel Emotionally Attached To You

It's pretty easy to hook a guy with your good looks and flawless physique, but getting a guy to develop a deep emotional bond with you is definitely the way to win his heart. Emotional attachment is what makes him want to spend the rest of his life with you, and makes him go out of his way to make you happy, and leaves him yearning to spend as much quality time with you as possible. No matter how long you've been in a relationship, it's never too soon to start increasing the emotional intimacy to ensure his love for you never dies. If you're ready for the type of love that never falters throughout the years, keep reading to see the 5 ways you can make your guy feel emotionally attached to you.

* Become His Safe Place

His day started off pretty horribly. He spilled his iced coffee just seconds after the barista handed it to him through the drive-thru window, he got into an intense email battle with a colleague, and he was inches from being rear ended while fighting traffic on his way home. But as soon as he entered your home, he walked straight into his safe haven. This scenario is exactly how your guy should feel every single day. He’ll be scrambling to get home to you because being with you gives him a sense of emotional and physical safety. Your arms keep him secure, your kiss can ease his fears, and laying his head on your chest makes him feel protected from the world. You’re never quick to judge him, you never spill his secrets, and you fulfill all of his fantasies on a whim. You’re practically his dream girl at this point, and your emotional bond is something that will never be broken!

* Keep His Secrets

The ultimate sign of trust is when you are able to keep all of your guy’s secrets between the two of you. Unless he has a hidden double life as a serial killer, or his secret will somehow be detrimental to your life, anything that he shares with you in confidence should never be shared with another soul. When he knows that he can go to you and share whatever is on his mind, you will become his sounding board, his best friend, and his sole confidante. He will never feel the need to stray away from you if he truly believes in his heart that he can trust you. If he knows deep down inside that you won’t blab his inner most thoughts to your mom, all of your girlfriends, and to everyone on your Facebook friend’s list, he will let down his guard as he slowly becomes even more emotionally attached to you.

* Soft Touches

Emotional intimacy builds over time with a little bit of help from the physical side of things. Men are accustomed to rough housing. They spend the majority of their childhood and teenage years getting bumped around, bruised, and breaking bones while playing contact sports and while goofing off with their friends. So when he chooses to be in a relationship, he will crave the kind of soft and gentle touches he probably hasn’t felt since the days when he was just a small child. As you go in for a hug before he heads out for work, allow your touch to linger as you slowly pull yourself away from him. He’ll be thinking about you all day long and counting down the hours until he can experience that soft touch once again. The way you caress him will become addicting, and he will forever want to be in your presence.

* Connect Intellectually

If you want your relationship to really last, and you want your guy to feel emotionally connected to you, superficial conversations won’t get you very far. If you’re past your teenage years, it’s time to stay up-to-date on current events and rock his world with your in-depth knowledge. The New York Times sends out a daily briefing every morning straight to your inbox. You can skim the email to check out the world’s latest news, and then bring those topics up during the next conversation you have with your boo. But make sure you’re focusing on the topics that you’re actually interested in and subjects that you feel comfortable discussing. If you can hold a meaningful conversation with your guy about topics other than the Kardashians and mindless gossip, he won’t be able to stop himself from feeling connected to you. In case you didn’t get the memo: being smart is oh so sexy!

* Don't Fight Dirty

Have you ever dated someone who picked apart all of your weaknesses every time the two of you got into an argument? Even friends and family members will go for the low blow all in the name of winning a petty argument. It’s pretty much a sucky way to gain the upper hand in a disagreement. Fighting dirty with your guy will immediately destroy any trust the two of you have built throughout your relationship. So the next time you have a disagreement, don’t start throwing things back in his face, such as “that’s why your mother hates you!” or, “that’s exactly why your ex-girlfriend cheated on you!” These kind of damaging statements can be detrimental to the emotional bond you two share. Instead, stay on topic and focus on the issues at hand. Fighting your battles with a level head and without hurling insults shows your maturity and emotional stability. He will know that even at your angriest, you won’t go out of your way to really hurt him.