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6 Biggest Reasons Why You Might Be Having A Cheating Fantasy
By: Kratika Sat, 23 Apr 2022 1:27:07
The human mind is a strange thing. One minute you’re concentrating and having a relatively productive day. The next you can’t focus because you’re too bothered by videos of dancing cats on YouTube or your personal cheating fantasy.
Of course, that’s just one example. There are no limits to the depths of weirdness our brains can sink!
Within a relationship, it’s totally normal to feel a little insecure or to have random feelings and thoughts occasionally. However, if you have a recurrent cheating fantasy, does that actually mean something?
In some cases it can, but not all the time. Some people find the idea of their partner getting it on with someone else quite a turn on for themselves. However, if you’re always dreaming about cheating, does it mean that you’re not dedicated and holds a deeper meaning?
Before you panic, let’s look at the potential reasons for this to be happening. Reassure yourself that in many ways, you’re simply a normal human being!
# You’re a little scared of becoming too committed
It’s entirely possible that you’re scared of commitment. The cheating fantasy is your brain’s way of alleviating the tension and worry you’re experiencing.
If this is the case, ask yourself whether you care for your partner and whether you really want to be in a committed relationship. If the answer is yes, work through your fears and communicate with your partner. If the answer is no, well, there’s your other answer!
# You’re experiencing a build up of intense feelings
If you’re in that intense honeymoon stage of your relationship, you might find it strange to suddenly start to have fantasies about other people. Don’t panic! It could simply be that you’re experiencing all manner of intense emotions. They’re manifesting in a cheating fantasy. It doesn’t necessary mean that you want to act upon it.
# You’re potentially wondering about an open relationship
Do you find it hard to be tied to one person? Have you always wondered about polyamory or open relationships? If your cheating fantasy becomes stronger, while you still want to be with your partner, you’re also curious about other people too. Proceed with caution before you communicate this to your partner!
# There is something you’re not getting from the relationship
How is the sex? Sorry to be blunt, but are you satisfied? If the cheating fantasy is purely sexual, it could be that your sex life isn’t as spicy as you’d like it to be.
The good news, is that it can be easily fixed! Simply work together to spice things up and make your bedroom time *or even outside of the bedroom* more fun.
# You’re not happy in the relationship
Of course, it could also be that you’re just not happy in the relationship. Your cheating fantasy is a strong indicator that you want out of it. Before you come to this conclusion, really ask yourself if that’s what you truly want. Is it a temporary feeling? Have you had an argument or are you having an ongoing debate that is wearing you down?
Talk things through with your partner before you make any drastic decisions, as there are many other potential reasons for why you’re having these unsettling fantasies.
# You’re just rebelling in your own mind
At the end of the day, we’re all human. We like to do naughty things occasionally! Your cheating fantasy, although hurtful to your partner if they ever found out about it, is simply your brain’s way of breaking the rules.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with your relationship or that you want to sleep with other people. It’s just harmless fun in your own mind, albeit a little worrying for you at the time!