6 Biggest Signs Your Almost Relationship Is Not Worth The Time

An almost relationship occurs when you meet someone who you start to feel strongly about. You end up dating, but only that. You never follow through with an actual relationship, and you have no idea whether that offer will ever be on the table.

Sure, you can be proactive about it and ask where things are going, but everyone knows that it is the kiss of death if asked at the wrong time. If your almost-lover believes a definition of your relationship is the kiss of death, they’re more likely to feel pessimistic about committing.

That’s the time when you find yourself in an almost relationship: when either you or your partner find yourself unwilling to commit. An almost relationship is precisely what it looks and sounds like.

# The crystal ball doesn’t agree with you

You need to look inside yourself and really ask whether or not you see a future with this person. Do not look at the fantasy you’ve built in your head. Study the reality and see whether or not your partner is someone that will stay with you for the long term. Don’t let yourself be blinded by the fantasy you want desperately to become a reality.

Really observe if there are any red flags with your chemistry or compatibility, and don’t get fooled by how much you adore them. The things that you do together should be in preparation for a more serious connection.

If you keep doing the same things and never talk about what’s next or make any future plans, you’re better off being single because that’s exactly what you are now—but with unnecessary baggage in the form of your almost-relationship.

# You’ve stopped growing

When your almost relationship is ready to flourish into a full-blown happily ever after, you should have noticed that everything you’re doing together with your partner is getting more and more serious. You should be discussing or showing your growing feelings for each other.

If you’re still doing the same things and not connecting on a deeper level, then that means that your almost relationship has reached its peak and is probably destined to deteriorate.

The minute you realize your connection has got stagnant, hasn’t moved forward in a long time, and there isn’t a next phase, it might be time to give up. Your relationship isn’t going anywhere, and it’s time to accept the facts.

# Your life is an unanswered question

Your partner has no idea who you really are, and you don’t know much about them, either. If you were on your way to a legitimate relationship, you should have been learning more about your partner and not begging for scraps of information.

If you’re not willing to share your lives with each other at this point, you should start thinking about moving on. Relationships should be about growing together and moving forward, so if nothing is happening and you barely know one another, what else is the point?

If there’s an evident wall you can’t break, it’s time to accept your relationship is not worth holding on to.

# Your relationship is the equivalent of Newton’s Cradle in Motion

Alright, time to get a little science-y! You’re not going any further, yet you’re not taking any steps back. You are just a couple of individuals stuck in the perpetual motion of keeping things the way they are because it is convenient. No commitments, no stresses, no obligations, right? But there’s also no trust, no loyalty, no love, no future.

Which do you choose? If there’s a central theme in any almost relationship, it’s being stagnant and remaining where you are for an extended period. It’s like you’re taking one step forward and three steps back *Olivia Rodrigo reference intended*.

# Your almost partner thinks you’re a cactus

They give you a little love now and then before sending you on your way. When they think you might be thirsty for more, they’ll provide a few more drops of love and affection just to keep the relationship alive. But the thing is, staying in a relationship like that is just going to kill your chances of ever finding true love slowly.

You deserve a relationship that showers you with consistency and affection – not just when it matters for them, but every day. So if your partner just gives you a bit of affection and time whenever they feel like it, and they’re not changing any time soon, time to let go.

# Cat got your tongue

You can’t bring yourself to speak up about it. No matter how much you want to broach the subject, something always comes up.

Whether it’s your own doubts about the situation or your partner’s penchant for disappearing when the subject comes up, the signs are apparent.

There’s nothing else to talk about. If this is how you’ve been feeling a lot lately, so much that you want to explode because of how much you want to speak about it, there’s your sign. Stop letting them get away with deflecting the subject and just talk about it, once and for all.