6 Easy Steps To Stop Caring About Someone Who Hurt You

Have you ever felt like you’d prefer to be numb? If you’ve ever been heartbroken, you’ve wished that someone could take all the pain away. Learning how to stop caring about someone who hurt you is easier said than done.

But wouldn’t life be easier if emotions came with an on and off switch? Have you ever watched The Vampire Diaries? In that show, the two vampire brothers can actually turn off their emotions. They simply decide they don’t want to feel the emotions of being human anymore. Click! They turn them off—that’s it. They feel nothing.

The thing is, we’re not TV vampires. There is no mythical on and off switch for the way we feel. We’re supposed to feel, it’s part of being human. Through feeling we process what happened and deal with it. Hopefully avoiding it happening again in the future.

# Allow yourself to feel the emotions

You’re going to need tissues for this, and probably a large bottle of wine, but you need to really feel the emotions in order to process them. You can’t deal with a situation unless you’ve felt the hurt and allowed it to change something inside of you.

I’m not suggesting you become bitter and unloving, but by feeling these emotions, you’ll recognize that your own happiness is far more important than feeling this way about someone else.

# Face up to what has happened and accept it

Far too many people don’t allow themselves to deal with a situation, simply because they don’t want it to be true. They get on with life and hope it goes away, but it never does. If you don’t face up to the situation and really accept it, it will simply come back to bite you on the ass at a later date. Believe me, it will feel ten times worse. Don’t run away from it. This is life.

# Take off your rose-tinted spectacles

You’re probably seeing all the good in them, all the positive memories you had together before the hurt happened. Take off those spectacles and see things for what they are; rationalize it by telling yourself that they hurt you, and someone who really cares about you wouldn’t have done it.

Okay, we all make mistakes, but the fact you’re trying to stop caring about this person tells me that this wasn’t a small mistake.

# Lean on your friends

Talk it out, lean on your friends, and allow them to help. Don’t defend the person’s actions. If your friend wants to bitch on them, let them do it! Listen, these people really do care about you, and they want what is best for you. This is one of the key steps in learning how to stop caring about someone who hurt you.

# Delete them on your social media

Do not Facebook or Instagram stalk them, it’s not cute and it’s not clever. Being up-to-date on what they’re doing isn’t going to help you get over them, and it’s not going to help you stop caring.

# Delete their phone number too

You’re going to have moments of weakness, blame those rose tinted glasses once more! Delete that phone number so you can’t get in touch with them on a Friday night when you’ve had too much to drink and you’re feeling nostalgic. You’ll undo all your hard work and regret it the next day.