6 Excuses We Tell Ourselves When A Relationship Is About To End

When relationships are coming to an end, it can be hard to face the pressing truth of the matter. Some relationships are not meant to last forever, and that is something we all have to accept. No matter how many excuses you try to come up with to fix the relationship, it will continue to go downhill.

We tell ourselves lies and excuses to deny the fact that there’s nothing we can do to avoid the inevitability of a breakup. But we know deep down that no matter what we tell ourselves or even our partners, the looming threat of a breakup is still drawing near. All we can really do is either face it head-on or just wait until we’re tired of our own excuses.

# We will get through this

It is true that relationships face good times and bad times, but sometimes we know when the relationship is not in a good state. When you and your partner constantly argue about the littlest things and issues become hard to overcome, then the relationship is on the decline. You start to tell yourself that you two will get through it, and there is nothing wrong with having disagreements.

You have to be honest with yourself about what is really going on with the relationship. Things may not be the same or feel the same anymore, so do not try to hold onto something that is causing you both pain. There are times when the relationship is nowhere near healthy, and at a certain point, you have to stop lying to yourself and saying that you will get through it, when really, you should just let it go.

# This is just a phase

We sometimes think that the relationship is just going through a hard phase, and we think nothing of it. This lie is just enough to keep us hopeful for a brighter future up ahead, when in reality, it may just be the ending phase. The breakup may just prove to you that it is best that you two go your separate ways. When the bad “phase” starts to last too long and no solutions seem to be working, just cut your losses and end it.

# We love each other too much to part ways

Love is always the number one excuse as to why people do not want to leave a toxic relationship. Honestly, love is not always enough, and you can love someone without being with them. When the relationship appears to be going downhill, we tend to tell ourselves that the love we share with our partner is too strong for us to ever part ways. Do not let love overpower the unhappy feelings the relationship is bringing you.

It is tough to realize that love cannot save your relationship. It may be in your best interests to simply love them from a distance. Love is not the super glue that can keep a relationship together, no matter how much we use the excuse that it will. You need trust, honesty, respect, and a whole host of other things that will keep a relationship healthy. Love alone won’t get you anywhere.

# There is a good reason why I am being mistreated

Never allow yourself to withstand mistreatment. You must teach people how to treat you in order to fully get what you deserve. Stop believing in the misconception that you deserve to be treated badly because all it will do is turn you into some sort of martyr with no hope for redemption.

No one that truly loves you will use any excuse to treat you like you are nothing. And what good is staying in a relationship with someone who can’t love you enough to treat you right?

# My partner would never cheat on me

If you have a hunch that your significant other may be cheating, ask yourself if it’s just you being paranoid or if there are actual reasons to believe that they’re cheating on you. If it’s the latter, confront your partner about it.

When the evidence is staring you in the face, don’t allow your partner’s flowery words to sway your judgment. You can either forgive your partner and start rebuilding the trust in your relationship, or you can choose to let go of a partner who can’t respect you enough to stay faithful.

# Maybe a break will help the relationship

Sometimes, a short break is what the relationship needs to get back into a good space. But it can also show you that the break us all you need to learn that you’re better off apart. If you feel more relieved when you’re on a break than when you’re together, it’s time to turn that break into a full-on breakup.